I was talking to someone the other day and they commented on the About Me page for this site. After reading my story, they were really touched and I got the "OMG! How did you do all of this given your past?" I just smiled and shrugged my shoulders (as I always do) and said something along the lines of "I'm favored. And I did what I had to do to make it." (As I always do.)
Then I got to thinking (pause as I channel my inner Carrie Bradshaw): whenever someone hears my story or learns something about my life, the question is always "How?"
How did I make it to an Ivy League university on a prestigious academic scholarship having been raised in foster care and coming from an unstable background?
How did I manage to graduate in four years, start my career, and find an apartment?
How did I not crumble under pressure and give up after finding out the I was gonna be someone's momma?
How did I make it out of a toxic relationship?
How did I get through grad school while going through a long, drawn-out breakup safely and sanely, and still be able to smile?
How am I surviving as a solo single mother and balancing my ever-consuming career, freelance writing gigs and a social life (albeit not so great at times)?
And then I think about it.
I am favored.
And I am blessed with drive and ambition and passion and resilience and grit.
And, more importantly, I know that I am more. More than just a girl who comes from an unstable background. More than just a girl who had a total "oops!" moment when the pregnancy test came back positive. More than just a girl who was in a physically and financially abusive relationship. More than just a girl who became a solo single mother.
Point blank: I am more than my circumstances.
And so are you. I mean, I look at Carla, who went from being a grad school student to an instructor (and she is also a single mama). And I look at Tara, who's a young mother of two and a total boss! And I look at all of you and your emails and messages.
Point blank: you're awesome. And you are more than your circumstances.