Thursday, September 29, 2011

First Date Chronicles with {Part Deux}

Last week, I told you about my new found obsession with the relatively new online dating site, Thanks so much for helping a sista out with the profile. I'm happy to report that I scored a date. Several, actually. Unfortunately, this busy single momma only had time to go on one of those dates. Bummer, I know.

Now remember, is all about getting people to get offline and on dates. The easy-to-fill-in prompt goes: "How about we..." and you fill it in with your best date idea.

My idea? "How about we... take a stroll through The High Line before it gets too chilly outside to do so." My logic was that my date and I could talk a bit and get to know each other a bit... and I could scope out new cuties just in case the date turned out to be a total bust.

But it wasn't.

I managed to get through the date with no fumbles. I think.

I was running 10 minutes late and when I walked up to the corner of 14th street and 10th avenue in NYC's Meatpacking District, there he was. Smiling. He's taller than he seemed in his profile pictures. 6'2" to be exact. I should have worn heels, was the first thought I had to my barely 5'4" self. He's broader in the shoulders and slimmer in the waist than he seemed in his profile pictures. Hmmm... he's cute, was the second thought that I had to my single self.

I smiled and nodded. He smiled and waved. Very smooth greeting. This could be good.

The weather was great -- warm and sunny and perfect for a stroll through Manhattan. Our conversation was good -- we spoke about our summer activities and vacations, our interests, our day job, Facebook (it's totally taking over the world), and his family (not mine, with the exception of Aiden). He was a total gentleman the entire time and halfway through our conversation I figured he seemed... safe. He's than I am. Dude's got 6 years on me. And based on his let-me-tell-you-all-the-important-details-about-myself constant shift in conversation, I figured he may be ready for an actual relationship. I'm not trying to go there just yet.

Still, I tried to keep it light. And fun. And easy-going.

Our date continued and we indulged in delicious ice cream (vanilla flavor for me, cappuccino flavor for him), then drinks (glass of Chardonnay for me and a beer for him). There was laughter. Check! There was smiling. Check! There was a little flirting. Check plus! And then there was the question... "So, what are you looking for in a relationship?" he asked. Ooh no... check minus. 

Really?! On a first date?! Sheesh!

In my humble opinion, the people who ask this question on a first date are the people who do not want to waste their time on more dates with someone who is not looking for the same things as them. How do I get out of this one gracefully? And without fumbling?

"Wow, you're just getting straight to the point, huh?" I say with a chuckle. "I was not at all expecting that question."

"I just thought we should get these questions out of the way," he says. This guy is not playing games. He seems to want to settle down. Sooner than later. Suddenly, he's not looking so cute anymore.

"This is like a job interview with Chardonnay," I quip. "Well..." I proceed to say that I am enjoying the dating process and getting to know different people. I add that once I find someone who is compatible with me and I see potential with them, I would consider dating them with a more serious purpose.

He totally ate it up.

A few days after our date, I got a call from him politely requesting if he can take me out again. So I guess I didn't fumble after all. And I guess the theory is totally true -- if a guy is interested in you, he'll call. Period.

Don't forget that is offering ONE MONTH FREE subscription to help you get back into the online dating game. Simply select "One Month," use the code "FallDating," and get your groove back, Stella! (Please tell me that you totally get the reference.)

{Disclaimer: This post is being sponsored by All opinions expressed herein are my own.}


  1. Oooooh I've done some online dating myself and I know exactly what you mean with the "what are you looking for in a relationship"-question. Only I got such questions over the internet, through MSN and email (I spent more time getting to know those guys online), after which I totally lost interest for the reason you mention! But I'm glad to hear your date turned out well, and nice that he's asked you on another date!

  2. This site seems interesting. I'm glad you had a date that over all turned out well since there are plans for a second date. Good luck with dating.

  3. Awesome! I'm excited for you. I love that you are patiently getting to know your suitors and getting a feel for each of them. If I had to do it all over again, I'd follow your lead rather than jump in head first with just one.

    Good luck and keep us posted on this tall, handsome one!

  4. As usual loved the post! You gave me a great laugh with "So, what are you looking for in a relationship?" he asked. Ooh no... check minus." You go girl. I am so proud of you. I hope it works out over time. It seems like you both had a great date if he is calling. :)

  5. Great post. Felt like I was on the date. Since he's 6 years older I'm not shocked that he got straight to the point. In addition, men often think that is what we want to hear so they ask...

  6. yay for you! sounds fun. "a job interview with Chardonnay". Too funny!

  7. So he looks way better than his pics...what? Girl, give this man a chance! Lol. I hope yall have fun on the second date and please write about it!

  8. Oh I have to pass this new site on to my buddy...never heard of it. Thanks. And I'm glad your date went well!

  9. Sounds like a flawless first date. I actually like that he came right out and asked what you were looking for.... at least we know he isnt about game-playing (like so many dudes out there).

    Derek is 6 years older than me - i think an older man makes a great husband! LOL

    (Hahaha, listen to me - all rushing you and things).

  10. YAY! Never heard of this site but glad to hear you've had a positive experience.

  11. So, glad to hear that all went well. Hope that you two will have fun getting to know each other!

  12. I like what you are doing Alicia, continue to relax and let things naturally take it's course. Great things happen when you take the time to enjoy the experience without putting pressure on yourself or anyone else. All the best!


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