Tuesday, January 4, 2011

Mommy Goes Clubbing

Hey Lovelies!

A few months back, my buddy Tara wrote a post on her blog asking if mommies should go clubbing. Needless to say, the post was quite controversial as many people made really strong points for either side of the argument.

This single NYC mama was all over the "HECK YEA!" side of the argument. Here's why. Read on, my friends...

I think motherhood is amazing, great, and full of the total awesomeness. Like really, nothing compares to me being a mother.

But in the words of Miranda from the Sex And The City 2 movie, "motherhood kicks your ass." Period. Motherhood takes up all of your time, energy, money, niceness, and patience. It's the one TRUE total-body workout, and works every. fiber. of. your. being. WORD! It is all-consuming. And then some.

My two-sense is this: whatever mothers feel that they need to do to get some "me time" in or to burn off some steam, so be it. If that means a glass of wine, a bubble bath, SLEEP!, or going for a run (my fave!), so be it. And if that includes an occasional girls night out, so be it.

So yes, I do go clubbing. And by clubbing, I mean out dancing with my girlfriends. But I do it in moderation. I go out. Occasionally. I have one or two alcoholic drinks. I weight 112 pounds so most of the time that's all I want to handle in order for me to rise and shine and function in mommyland the next morning. But I digress. I dance. A lot. But only with my gals. No bumping and grinding with creeps strangers for this mama! I wear something sexy. Yes, sexy. Check out my picture from New Years Eve. I love the sparkles!

I take lots of pictures. Sometimes the ones with the booty pose. Oh, you don't know the booty pose? Let me school you. It's the pose where you position your hips/booty to look slightly bigger than it actually is. Like this picture of my girlfriend and me on NYE.

And this shot of another girlfriend and me at restaurant/bar.

(By the way, M and T, you gals are pictured on my blog).

I have fun. FUN! Lots of it. But most importantly, I remember that I am a woman first. First. Motherhood is just a delicious bonus to that.

Then I take my cute little self home, wake up the next morning SOBER and not hungover, head over to Starbucks for a caramel macchiato (love 'em!), pick up my son, and take him to his swimming lessons on time. Or to the Gymboree. Or on a play date. Whatever activity I have planned for him on that day doesn't get interrupted because mommy went clubbing the night before. Just like that, I'm back at it. Doing the mommy thing. And we have fun. FUN! Lots of it.

This post is not to encourage moms to join me at the club. Well, maybe a little bit. Any takers? No, really. Who's game?

This post is to demonstrate how important it is for me to continue to do something that I liked/loved before I had Aiden. So although I modify how often I go out (let's face it, my income is no longer disposable), I don't want to get rid of it altogether.

All work and no play makes Mommy Delicious one sad, sad momma. And not that delicious.

And just so you know, Aiden parties too. It looks something like this Christmas morning picture.

And this one.

According to him, he was having a "Rock N' Roll Show." His words, not mine.



  1. Girl, I would not know what to with my old 37 year old self in a club!haha! I do try to get out with my husband at least once a month and go on a girls night out once in a while. GNO usually consists of going to dinner and partaking in a variety of adult beverages. I am usually home by 9. Pathetic I know :p

  2. Looks like you had a blast! I need to start having fun again and not feel guilty about it.

  3. Great post!!! I have no issues with clubbing in moderation (if my budget would allow it...darn student budget) so long as it doesn`t interfere with the next day. You are definitely doing it right!!!

    With our current student budget, I unwind at night with a glass of wine at home. And that`s okay :)

    P.S. I love your dress!! Beautiful mama!

  4. Such an important post. And I totally agree. If we do not tend to our own happiness, our own wants and needs, we won't be the best mothers we can be. Life does not end - nor should it - when we welcome little ones. To the contrary, I actually think it is important that we show our little creatures that fun and pleasure are important aspects of life, at whatever stage. Wrote a little about this a while back - http://www.ivyleagueinsecurities.com/2010/02/moms-gone-wild/

    (Happy New Year!)

  5. This will always be a touchy convo because people assume that once you become a mother you're automatically transformed into June Cleaver! I agree, whatever mom needs to do to un-wind then let her be as long as the kid's routines aren't interrupted then have fun, it's needed! I don't think you should be regular at the club anymore, if that's not your job, but get a night to you and your girls is necessary.
    But um, yea whenever you're ready, I'm ready! lol no seriously I'm ready!

  6. I am not a mother yet but i would hope that even after kids, i will have the oppourtunity to come out and have fun once in awhile. Just because you have kids does not mean you turn yourself off completely. Only way to keep yourself sane is by having mommy-time! Love the sparkly dress. You looked GORGE!

  7. HOT! Girl, if I looked like you, I'd be at the club all the time!

  8. I so agree with you. Mommies should be able to do whatever they want as long as it doesn't stop them from doing their mommy duties, and as long as it not going to put them in jail. LOL! You go girl! You dance all you want!!!

  9. Ladies, as you can see, I totally think that it is important to have a little fun once in awhile. If it doesn't interfere with being a mother. it's no easy thing to balance, but hey, I try.

    @Sheliza: that's NOT pathetic! That's how you have a good time and that's totally fine.

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  11. Hi Alicia! Beautiful pictures :)

    I am now following you from Midweek mingle :)
    Please visit and follow back if you fancy.

    I look forward to reading from you too.

  12. New follower from the Twitter hop. Stop by sometime at http://hungrigyrl.blogspot.com. I am not a clubber, but I do like to go out with my girlfriends. There is nothing wrong with mommy's going out and having some fun!

  13. Awesome post! New follower here and I'm so glad I found you! Drop by and see me if you get the chance, thanks!



  14. I love going out and dancing the night away with my ladies every now and then. I wish I had the opportunity to do it more :)

    Thanks for stopping by my blog. I am your newest follower from the MBC!

  15. Heck yea, I'll take you up on that offer to go clubbing the next time I'm in the NYC area!!! We are moms but we still like to have fun, go out dancing with crew, have a few drinks and let our hair down. Why do people assume when you become a parent or get married that you become this boring person?

    That is so true. Yes, you will have to cut back on the amount of clubbing you do and maybe not get as tipsy as you used to, but still there is no official rules or laws that state moms can't club too!!

  16. Loved this post!

    While I'm not really a clubber anymore, I am ALL FOR moms doing whatever it is they enjoy to relax and unwind, so long as its safe and not going to negatively impact the family or household. Girl, get your club on - you look HAWT in those pics!!!!

    And GET IT with the booty pose. Owwww!!!

  17. Awww, you're adorable and young and single, you should be able to go out and let loose once in awhile.I think we ( us Mommies) have it shoved down our throat so hard that we have to be a certain way to be a respectable Mommy. I call bullshit. I never went out.First time we went out since having our girls..this year. My oldest is 5! 5!!!! WE went out for my our anniversary to a romantic dinner and then out for some drinks. We sat at this bar ( exhausted wanting nothing more than to sleep) but we stayed. It was the principal. We were free & had grandparents with our girls.It made me realize, why had I waited so long? AS long as you're not doing it every night on the regular and ignoring your mommy duties, there is nothing wrong with it. There are no awards in motherhood for being miserable, just as there are no awards for giving birth without an epidural. Every MOmmy's different. Do what works best for you and your child and forget about everybody else!


  18. @Yakini: OUCH!
    @TruthfulMommy: 5 years. FIVE YEARS!!!!! And you are still sane?!?! Hands down, you deserve a metal. Wow!

  19. I couldn't stop reading your post, one after the other, lol. Very engaging and straight from the heart. You have such a handsome, precious little man, and you seem to have a great balance of enjoying your life while being a good mom as well which is not easy at all. Oh, love the pics, and the booty pose is so funny, I have a similar body type so I will try this!


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