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Last week tennis player Serena Williams declared that she’s swearing off dating for the next decade. (Yep. You read that right: ten whole years without dating.)
She told Celebuzz, “I have given up on dating. I’m a really emotional person. I give my all and everything. I do make mistakes — like every human does — but the last relationship just was too much of a heartbreak for me. I just can’t go through that anymore. It was hard. [...] I just have to remove myself from that atmosphere for about the next decade or so.”
Ah, Serena, I see where you’re coming from. Really, I do. It can be hard to have faith in the dating process sometimes because it can be daunting. And if you find yourself going through a breakup, you can literally feel like you’re falling apart. I’ve certainly been there. So, I “get” it.
But here’s the thing, though: as trying and tiring as it can be, there are perfectly good reasons not to give up on dating. Here are six.
1. Dating can be interesting.
When you’re single and seeking, you have the opportunity to meet new people. When you land yourself a date, you have the opportunity to embrace new experiences. And even if Date Number One doesn’t lead to Date Number Two, Three, or Long-Term Relationship, you would have had an interesting experience to add to your dating diaries. And that’s pretty darn cool.
2. First date jitters are actually exciting.
You know that warm-and-fuzzy-butterflies-in-your-stomach feeling you get after you’ve secured a first date with someone that you think is really really cute, nice, and funny? You know that smile you smile on D-Day (Date Day)? You know that spark you feel when you arrive at your first date destination and you can just picture yourself having a good time? Yeah, if you give up on dating, you can kiss those things good-bye.