Thursday, October 18, 2012

We All Have Insecurites To Deal With

Last weekend, I celebrated my friends' birthday with dinner, drinks, and some much-needed girl talk. We had a really great time and I was reminded (yet again) how important it is to take time out for myself and my friendships.

While we were at dinner, I heard a lot of "I don't know how you do it" and "You're doing so much... wow!" and "I'm impressed with all that you do."

I was flattered.

But, the truth is, I was impressed with all of the other ladies at the dinner table. They are all doing amazingly great things, and still have time to hang out and have a good time.

Some are in graduate school rocking it out.

The birthday girl recently finished law school and is preparing to move across country.

Some are working 'round the clock at their day job and taking care of business with their side hustle.

Some are in relationships and it's going really well.

Some are in relationships and they've just overcome a really rough patch.

Some are concerned about what kind of mother they will be.

Some are worried if they will even have children because they're getting older and haven't gotten married yet. (I pretty much laughed at this comment because 28 or 29 is not old at all, but quite youthful, with plenty of time to reproduce.)

Some are not loving their current job, but working hard to find another one.

Some feel stuck. Some feel successful. Some feel lost. Some feel lucky.

All are blessed. 

The point that I'm trying to make is this: everyone has stuff that they have to deal with. Everyone has a different path that they must follow in life. Those paths are filled with trials and triumphs, sorrows and successes, and loads of lessons to be learned. If you allow for it to happen.

I'm truly blessed with the life that I have now. It wasn't easy getting here. But, it's not all peaches and cream either. I have my own issues and situations and roadblocks that I'm dealing with. Every. Single. Day.

As do you.

And all the other ladies at that dinner table.

So... don't compare yourself to other people. Celebrate their success, yes. But don't think that their lives are picture perfect. Because, we all have our own struggles, insecurities, and challenges to deal with.





  1. Ah, what a relief it was to read that some of your friends wonder if they'll ever have children because they're 28/29 and haven't married yet.

    I'm 28 and I also worry about that sometimes. It's good that I'm not alone! (And thanks for reminding me that 28 is still young!)

  2. I'm glad you wrote this. It's funny how there always seems to be a blog post somewhere that you need to hear for certain life situations. I know I needed to read this because this is the third post I've read about celebrating the success of others.

  3. Great post!!, I totally agree with you, 28-29, it's still young, one very thoughtful post !!
    You have a great blog, i'm following you now :)

  4. It's important to take time away from friends and also to be there to share birthdays with friends. Children are the future. This is such a touching post.

  5. In-Deed! Thank you for this comforting post.

  6. "Don't compare yourself to other people" so true. And 28 is young. I was 30 when I had my first child. (-:

  7. So true!! My girl is always comparing herself to other people who are seemingly more successful than her (in her mind anyway) and I always tell her do not envy peoples lives because you truly never know what they may be dealing with!

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  8. Whenever someone is in "awe" of me I am always completely in shock because I feel like I am going through the motions and just surviving. I have long come to realize that we all are walking around being impressive in some way and that comparisons will just never work. Great post Alicia

  9. Amazing post! Definitely couldn't agree with you more.


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