Dating someone is fun and light. When it’s fun and light. Repeatedly dating the same someone – recurring great dates – can get a little bit tricky. Because it kind of goes from “just dating” to actually “seeing someone.” And thus begins the gray area.
Also known as Limbo Land.
Also known as “So… what exactly are we doing here?”
Also known as pre-exclusive relationship hell.
There seem to be two kinds of people in this type of relationship. There’s the person who thinks, “This is great! I wonder how long it can last.” For them, it’s actually not hell at all. It’s pre-exclusive heaven on earth.
Then there’s the other kind. The kind who sits home on a Friday night, glass of wine in hand, staring at the phone and willing the other person to call (never works, in case you’re wondering) and thinks – in agony, “How LONG is this going to last?!”
[Totally not talking about myself here.]
That person – the latter – knows that one can either get fired or promoted in this role. That person – the latter – wants to have “The Talk,” but doesn’t want to have “The Talk.” That person -- the latter -- likes the beginning and infatuation phase and wants to extend it for as long as possible. They also want to make sure that they actually want to stop dating other people and just see one person to see if it can lead to something more serious. Ah, the conundrum.
Not just floating around as a placeholder (until something better comes along) or worse, a holding pattern (way too hard to get out of), but something meaningful (the beginning of building something amazing).
The upgrade to “boyfriend/girlfriend” status.
Are you the first or the second kind of person? And how long do you (did you) wait before having “The Talk?” What are some factors that you consider?