Friday, June 24, 2011
The Discipline Weekly: Reasons for Misbehavior
A few weeks ago, Aiden's head teacher approached me with not-so-good news -- she'd been having a tough couple of days with him and he was not following many of her directions. I carefully listened to her, but was a little embarrassed, if I can admit.
Now here's the geek in me: that night I went home and brain-stormed ideas to help Aiden's teacher help him. I didn't want to be that Mom who does nothing when her child's teacher gives a less than great report. But, I also didn't want to be that Mom who scolds her kid and sides with the teacher. I wanted to help them both.
As I pondered some of the reasons for Aiden's misbehavior, I realized that they usually stem around several things:
Wanting/Needing More Attention
I find that when I give Aiden attention and/or respond to his requests within the first couple of times he calls out to me, I usually get more of a positive response from him. And less whining. Gosh, I hate whining! But I digress.
Wanting More Power
Giving Aiden two choices usually works better than giving him no choices. It makes him feel included and meaningful and all that jazz. And great things happen when he feels included and meaningful and all that jazz.
Feelings of Inadequacy
Just like his mama, Aiden is a little perfectionist. He likes to succeed at things within his first few attempts at it. And boy does he have a hard time controlling his frustrations when he feels as though he is not "getting it" fast enough. I usually try to catch his frustrating feelings before it escalates into him screaming out of control because that's no fun for the both of us.
Thankfully, as I consulted with his teacher the next day and filled her in on my newfound wisdom, she nodded and stated that the tips would not only help her with Aiden, but also with the other students in the class.
That's the thing about parenting -- no matter what age you become a Mother, married or single or somewhere in-between, you become your child's advocate and biggest freakin' cheerleader. Comes with the territory, I guess...
Can you think of any other reasons for misbehavior? Share them below in the comments!
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