As I stated in my last post, I started this blog because when I found out that I was preggo, I did not have any friends my age who were also with child, and therefore had no one to really understand first-hand what I was going through. I mean, here I was fresh out of college, with a fulltime and no worries except when I was going to meet a friend for dinner or what killer outfit I'd where out on a Saturday night. No, I wasn't that shallow, but you get my drift. I had no real responsibility... other than myself.
Until I found out that I was pregnant. And the first out of my friends. As a result, I spent the first half of my pregnancy with mourning sickness, as in mourning the lost of my carefree lifestyle. And while all of my wonderful friends were extremely supportive and had very good intentions, for the most part, they had no idea what to do with a baby. And neither did I. After all, babies don't come with a manual (although I wish they did!). So what was a 20-something year old NYC gurl to do?
I'll be the first to admit that I faked it BIGTIME (yup, we women can fake it at more than just one thing... lol). I totally faked motherhood. That is, until I made it. And eventually it turned out to be all the wonderful and delightful things that I thought it would be. But it was by no means easy. So I hope you enjoy some of the tips and tricks that I've learned (and still learning) thus far.
One thing that I've learned is that on days when I was too exhausted to fake it (hey, those 3:00 am feedings can take a toll on you), I confided in my friends. And even though I was the first in the pack to have a baby, they were an incredible support system for me... and the father-to-be. So rule number 1: no matter how young or old you are, having a baby is a tremendous responsibility and YOU NEED A SUPPORT SYSTEM. If you don't have one, find one! Be it a friend, relative, or neighbor, find someone who has your back and will be able to support you when you need it most! Word!