A Year of Inspiration, Style, and Blessings

When 2011 rolled around, I had two main goals: to finish grad school with my two master degrees (check, check!) and get the job that I dreamed of. When 2012 rolled around, I had the degrees, but not the job. Yet. So I had to buckle down, grind through, and work. Hard. Until I got the job. (Check!)

It's a blessing.

It seems as though I've been in a constant state of "Go!" since 2011, but for the past few days, I've been taking the time out to stop.

And take it all in.

And reflect.

I'm blessed.

And this here community is such a blessing to me. (And I hope it is to you as well.)

We've shared a lot in this place and space, and for that, I am grateful.

Way back in January, I shared with you how I've found my "happy." And I challenged many of you to find your happiness within as well. The emails that I received after that post was truly inspiring.

I spent some time thinking about what kind of mother I want to continue to be and how I'd like Aiden to remember his childhood 15 years from now. 

I've taken time for myself by traveling to Miami and indulging in life's little pleasures. I've shown that moms are anything but dull and boring by sharing my fashion and style sense with you and by putting myself first. Sometimes. I've dated. Again. And had fun. Again. And learned some lessons along the way. Again. 

I've continued working with eBay, which led me to the west coast, singing Katy Perry's "California Gurl" as I toured San Fran and drank fine wine.

I also continued writing for REDBOOK Magazine and, in addition to writing online articles a couple times per month, I was published in print as well. And then there was the September issue of Parents Magazine in which I was passionately discussing all things education, educational reform, and the achievement gap.

Speaking of education, I wrote admissions essays, collected recommendations, and braved interviews so that I could get Aiden into a good private school. And for those of you who live in a big city (or know anything about the NYC private school admissions process), you know what that means: I worked. Hard.

Co-parenting failed, but I embraced life as a solo single mom. And it ain't half bad, especially if I continue to learn from hard life lessons along the way. 

And how can I forget modeling a swimsuit on the first day of summer on a double-decker bus all around Manhattan? Or the nod from NY Metro Parents? Or Red Tricycle? Or the collaboration with NY Family Magazine? Fun times!

I got my butt kicked a couple times, but that's alright because I learned the lessons. And shared them, of course. 

I couldn't make it to the press trip in Atlanta with Coca-cola, but my blogging pal YUMMommy represented very well. (Thanks girl!)

Oh yeah, and I've hung out with some celebrities too -- Jessica Alba, Jennifer Hudson, and Soledad O'Brien, to name a few. Pretty epic.

Needless to say, it's been quite a year. 

I share all this to say two main things: children of single parents can thrive and be happy and do well in life. It's possible. And having a baby in your early 20's is not the end of the world, but the beginning of something so wonderful and so monumental. All of your comments, messages, and emails prove it. Everyday.

So, in 2013, let's keep sharing. And let's keep showing 'em what we're made of!

Cheers and high-fives all around!

{I was not compensated for this post. It contains links to posts written in conjunction with the eBay Parent Panel and REDBOOK Magazine, for which compensation is received.}

All You Need Is Love

Yesterday was filled with nothing but love -- love for Aiden, love for family, love for friends, love for this single mom life.

I am so blessed. Beyond measure.

And I'm grateful. Oh so grateful. 

I hope your day was just as amazing.

Wishing you all an amazing (and stylish!) holiday and a glorious New Year!

Look For The Helpers...

Today is the last day of work for me in 2012. At my school, we'll round out the year by giving all 433 of our scholars a holiday gift and sending them off for a much-need two week break. Seeing the looks on their faces as they receive their gifts will be beautiful and precious and absolutely wonderful.

But this week was rough.

Between our holiday performances and finishing off the year strong, I worked long, long days. (And last week too.) From 7am until 8pm most days. And then there's this thing called single motherhood. Aiden is such a trooper and even stayed at work with me until 8pm one night. (Not that he had a choice in the matter.)

I'm tired.

But, in the midst of it all, I'm continuing to remind myself that it's not only about me.

(Don't get me wrong, sometimes it is about me. And I'll be the first person to advocate taking time for yourself and doing something that you enjoy. Guilt-free. Because, you can't take care of others until you take care of yourself first.)

But, there is a bigger picture. Life is bigger than me. My purpose and my mission is bigger than me. Being a blessing to someone else and being a helper requires me to look outside of myself. (Which is why I continue to share my story on this corner of the Internet.)

It's about my son. And seeing the look on his face when one of the elves delivered an early gift and a note from Santa... just for him.

It's about Aiden's holiday performance and his chance to showcase what he's been working on in music class.

{Aiden's on the far left}

It's about the scholars that I serve everyday. And being there for them as they showcase all that they've learned in Performing Arts this semester. (Their performance was so good! There was standing-room only the night of their show.)

{3rd grade scholars}

{4th grade scholars}

It's about my more challenging scholars, who, really and truly, need more love and support from their teachers and administration to keep 'em on task.

This is about more than just me. And my actions affects more than just me.

So yes, I'm tired.

But I'm also encouraged. Everyday, I'm encouraged. To do more to help. To go from good to great. To be a helper...

What about you?

{Personal Style} Shimmer

[sweater, blouse: Joe Fresh; skinnies: AE; socks: H&M; boots: Steve Madden]

Last weekend was a pretty child-centered one for me. Aiden and I stayed in on Friday night, headed to a kid-friendly media event on Saturday morning, celebrated his classmates' 5th birthday early Saturday afternoon, and had a play date late Saturday afternoon. But, after the events of last week that shook all of us to the very core, could you expect anything different?

But I digress.

By Sunday afternoon, it was time for some adult conversation so I headed to Prospect Heights in my lovely borough (Brooklyn, stand up!) and met my girl K for brunch. I wasn't ready to let him out of my sight yet, so Aiden came along. But that's okay because we had drinks and girl talk, and was surrounded by love. In the midst of yelling at asking him to get out of my picture, we snapped a shot of us together. Precious!

It was rainy and cool, but that didn't stop me from being festive with a bit of gold shimmer and bold red lips. Love! I paired the sweater with a green silk blouse, and added a layering effect with the black skinnies, gray thigh-high socks, and over-the-knee flat boots.

Hope you're all having a great week. Stay stylish!

Thank A Teacher Today

I had a different post scheduled to go live today. It was going to talk (in-depth) about how stressful life could be when you're raising a kid and trying to climb the career ladder. Because it is.

It's hard.

But, when you look at the bigger picture, it's irrelevant.

Life is stressful. Things happen. But as long as we are alive, we can always work towards getting over it. These crazy life circumstances and stresses are nothing (nothing!) when you compare them to real tragedies, to real misfortunes.

What happened in Sandy Hook Elementary school on Friday was a real tragedy.

Today, instead of heading to school with their beautiful children, two families are heading to a funeral for their children, and too many more families are preparing for their children's funerals.

The names of the victims were released by the New York Times yesterday and seeing their names in print made it that much more real for me. 

The children were Aiden's age.

As a parent, I can't even fathom what it must be like. As a former teacher, I can't even fathom how it must feel. As an educator and elementary school administrator, I spent my morning listening to parents' concerns and assuring them that our school building is as safe as possible, that their beautiful children will be okay with us, with their teachers. Today and everyday.

Then, I took action. I thanked the teachers in my building for their grit, their hard work, and their relentless dedication to our scholars and our mission.

It's not an easy job, but I know that every teacher in my school building would have done exactly what Victoria Soto (age 27) did for her students -- protect them at all costs.

So today, join me and hundreds of blogger across the Internet to say, "Thank you." Send a card, draft an email, send flowers. Show your gratitude in some small way because teaching ain't easy.

And you have to love this job in order to do it well.

Hair Products to Beautify Your Holiday

When it comes to looking beautiful, it's in my hair. I know that that may seem a bit shallow, but if I don't think that my hair looks good, I don't feel good. Which is why whenever I find a hair care product or a hair styling tool that works for me, I stick with it.

{Folica's Hair Products}

A few weeks ago, I was introduced to Folica, a line of hair products and hair styling tools, and I wasn't sure what to expect at first since I've been a diehard fan of another product that was working for me. But, I must admit, I'm impressed with Folica.

That's why I'm happy to share the deets on their latest giveaway. This holiday season, everyone wins great hair with Folica.

How so?

Throughout the remainder of this month, Folica is offering a special promotion where everyone wins up to $50 to spend on hair styling products at Folica.com. Well, maybe not everyone. But, 1 in every 100 people will win a $50 credit to spend instantly on hair care.

As stated by Folica.com, "With over 60,000 great hair products, more than 300 beloved brands and over 70,000 customer ratings and reviews, Folica.com is your one-stop shop to recreate today's hottest hairstyles."


Want to enter? Head on over to check out Folica's hair care and hair products. (You're welcome.)

{Disclosure: This post is being sponsored by Folica. All opinions expressed herein are my own.}

{Guest Post} Tips for Traveling with Kids this Holiday Season

Written by Debbie Fishman

While traveling during the holidays, we get so consumed with finishing holiday shopping for our little princes and princesses, figuring out what we need to pack (my little one always wants to bring her tutu and rain boots even if we are flying) and finalizing destination plans, that we sometimes forget little things that can turn out to be very large problems. Here are seven simple steps to ensure a safe and stress-free holiday without the help of medication.

Plan Ahead
Make plans and buy tickets ahead of time to guarantee your travel plans. Planes fill up. If you wait too long, you, your hubby and even your kids may be sitting on opposite sides of the aircraft, if on the same flight at all. This will lead to tears, lots and lots of tears (not just from the kids). Plus, you can save money and time if you plot connections carefully and, as Independenttraveler.com suggests, build in time for flight delays. If possible, create a buffer day to account for weather woes and snotty noses.

Try to be flexible on time if you are attempting to save money. The peak travel hours will slow you down on the road, in the airport and with all of the planes going out at the same time, you could miss your connecting flight even if you were solo, let alone with the troop in tow. Breathe easy and plan ahead.

Monitor It
Thanks to the ever-growing world of technology, we can now visit our home from our mobile devices. You can get web access to a visual live feed of your home from Life Shield. You can look at history of what's happened in your home and you can arm and disarm your system right from you phone or laptop.

You can also put your interior lamps, along with your outdoor sconces, on a timer and there is a device available that simulates the flickering glow of a real TV. Check out faketv.com.

Home Security Tips
A holiday issue of Reader's Digest looked inside the mind of burglars and found some interesting things they will do (and notice) to be sure your home is easy to invade while you are away. Here are some simple steps to take to ensure your home is not vulnerable.

• Stop newspaper delivery
• Have a neighbor collect door flyers
• Avoid Facebook posts and check-ins (watch the kids with this)
• If it snows and you're away, ask a neighbor to create tire and foot tracks to your home. Virgin snowfall in the driveway is proof you are nowhere in sight.
• Of course you'll turn on your home security system, but be sure to have it wired over your kitchen sink and on the second floor. People often overlook these locations and thieves know it. Reader's Digest suggests motion detectors near your valuables.
• According to the RD article, burglars tend to avoid young kids' rooms, so if you have something very valuable, hide it there while you are gone.

Getting Through Airport Security Quickly 
Airlines are flying full during the holidays so the planes will be packed. Want to get through security quickly and easily? Prepare the entire family ahead of time.

• Everyone wear slip-off shoes and don't wear a belt.
• Don't pre-wrap your gifts. TSA will rip them open if there is a mysterious shape on their monitor.
• Put your liquids (if not in checked baggage) in one clear quart-sized sealable bag with no liquid bottle being over 3.4 oz. and take it out of your carryon while in line.
• Check to see if there is a family line.
• Certain foods are allowed but check with the TSA website for specific guidelines.
• Snow Globes are not allowed in your carryon baggage.

Keep Your Wits 
Be willing to endure.  Put a worry stone or something in your pocket to remind you that it is going to be alright and that you can get through any challenge. Realize, it's going to take some composure to get through this holiday travel and keep breathing...in through the nose and out through the mouth.

About the author: Debbie Fishman used to be a flight attendant and now she writes about travel. She doesn't miss waiting on people, but she does have a strong appreciation for attendants who can demonstrate how to fasten a seatbelt without scowling.