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15 Years From Now...

2012-02-03T10:16:00.000-05:00

Yesterday morning, as Aiden and I made our way from the bus stop to his school, we hopped over the cracks in the NYC sidewalks, trying our best not to step on them. But we did. A lot. And every time we stepped on a crack, we laughed. Loudly. And people looked at us like we were a little crazy. But we didn't pay too much attention to them. We simply said, "Oops! I stepped on another one!" More laughter. More smiling. More stares from onlookers. It was the best time ever!

This morning, we played that game again. It was even more fun than when we played yesterday.

Then I got to thinking... this right here... is what this parenting thing is all about. Making memories. Happy, smiling, FUN, and lovely memories.

{"silly rabbit, Trix are for kids"}

15 years from now, I want Aiden to have fond memories of his childhood with me. I don't want him to remember me as a busy bee mom who didn't have time to play with him. In fact, I don't even want him to remember that my career was demanding. Instead I want him to remember me sitting on the floor next to him putting together puzzles, or setting up his train tracks, or playing with his race cars.

I want him to remember the books that I read to him, the funny facial expressions that I made, and my voice inflections. I want him to recall how I really, really got into the characters to engross him in the story.

I want him to remember the times I pretended to be Batman or Superman. I want him to remember when I transformed into Flash (another Superhero, for those of you "Superhero Virgins") and ran all over our living room with him.

I don't want him to remember how tired I was of how often I was tired. Instead, I want him to remember how we played hide and seek in our apartment.

I want him to remember how I stayed with him at night until he fell asleep because he was afraid of the dark, not that I really, really wanted him to fall asleep so that I could tackle some work and get some writing done.

I want him to remember that we chased after birds on the way to school. And jumped over the cracks in the NYC sidewalks. Not that I was watching my watch because we were late for school that morning as a result of me pressing the snooze button three times. (Oops!)

I want him to remember the hugs and kisses and warm and fuzzy feelings. Not that I was constantly thinking of the tasks that I had to accomplish next. Too busy for hugs and kisses? Hmm... That's not the kind of mother that I want to be.

I want him to remember how many times I put down what I was doing just to give him my full attention and watch him play. Just to teach him something. Just to tell him how proud I am of him (because I am) and how much of a blessing he is to me. And to the universe.

{that's one fashionable kid}

I want him to know that he was put here for a purpose and I want him to pursue his passion and purpose. Boldly.

So I'm mothering more consciously. More intentionally. And I jumping over the cracks in the sidewalks because that's what makes Aiden happy. Because when he's all grown up, I want him to look back and smile. And smile again. And know that he had the best childhood that I could provide for him.

What about you? What do you want your kids to remember 15 years from now? How are you working to help them achieve those memories.

Rediscover Yourself In Motherhood

2012-02-01T10:42:00.000-05:00

Guest Post by Alia Haley

Mothers play the most vital role in a family. If you're a mother, then you need to be always healthy in order to keep your family healthy because a healthy mother = a healthy family. Here are some tips to help you stay health and rediscover yourself in motherhood:

Consider yourself important too

The first and foremost task for moms is to always keep fit and fine. She would not be able to carry out her duties if she gets weak. You are important too so take time for your own health.

Try to make a flawless schedule

Or as flawless as possible. It is not always possible to schedule your commitments according to your time and requirements if you have a baby, but making a schedule and prioritizing helps with this. Also, try to get into all the works when your baby gets onto bed.

Take breaks in multi-tasking

If you constantly carry out your job without taking a rest, then it may result in your weakness. As well, it creates a bit of stress on you. Taking breaks to just breathe helps with this.

Look after your own mental health

Looking after your mental balance is another imperative part of motherhood. If you do not take care of your mental health, then you would become irritated and it may result in misunderstanding with your children.

As a mother you have to play the role of captain in home. For that reason, you need to be fit and fine physically as well as mentally. Hope, the aforementioned tips may help you a lot to get to rediscover yourself in motherhood.

About the author: Alia Haley is a blogger by profession. She loves writing on technology and luxury. She is also fond of gadgets. Recently an article on Fisher Price Toys for Toddlers attracted her attention. These days she is busy in writing an article on Alternative medicine.

The Green Team, Baby! PLUS, Win $1000 from eBay!

2012-01-31T12:30:00.000-05:00

I'm pretty excited to share something with you that I think is, like, so totally awesome. It's my latest obsession and it's name is eBay Green, my new fave spot for eco-friendly education, inspiration, and, of course, shopping (one of my fave pastimes).

In 2012, it's all about reducing, reusing, and recycling, and this new eBay site is going to make the 3 R's as easy as possible for you. While helping you earn money, of course. How so? Well, because the site is dedicated to being entirely green. While helping you earning money, of course.

And it's not only a shopping portal (although, let's face it: shopping is a major bonus!). There's also the Green Team Talks where you can get schooled on all things "green," like composting and the impact of the aluminum can. (And then, get your shopping on, baby!)

PLUS: If you have a question, you can post it in the "Ask the Green Team Community," and other eBay Green community members can help answer.

PLUS: On the eBay Green site, community members can create Eco Shopping Lists on pretty much anything. Household products, baby products, nursery items... take your pick!

Can't think of anything "green" to list? Simple solution! With the exception of old appliances, anything that's already in existence and can be re-used can be considered "green." Think "refurbished, pre-owned (or "pre-loved"), and re-purposed." And there you have it -- GREEN! As a super dope eBay Green Team member puts it, "The greenest product is one that already exists." WORD!

For your chance to win a $1,000 eBay gift card, follow these steps below:

Visit the eBay Green website.
Sign with your eBay User ID and password.
Join the Green Team.
On the homepage (green.ebay.com) identify the “Greener Alternative” and “Eco Shopping Lists” sections.
Next to these sub headers, you’ll see “add an item” or “create a list.”
To enter the contest, select the proper category and click on “add an item” or “create a list.”
By adding an item URL from the eBay marketplace and explaining why it’s a greener alternative or creating a list of eco items, you are entered to win.
Once the listing appears on the site, you are entered to win a $1,000 eBay gift card!

{Full Disclosure: As an eBay Parent Panel Ambassador, this post and giveaway is being sponsored by eBay. All opinions expressed herein are my own.}

Common Misconceptions of Single Mothers (And Dating)

2012-01-30T11:10:00.000-05:00

Since venturing out into the dating world as a single mother, I’ve experienced some highs and lows, ups and downs, some good first dates, some great dates, and er, a story of “love” and loss. Remember them? Sigh.

But now that "I guess I got my swagga back" (Cue Jay-Z and Kanye), I’m reflecting on some of the things that people think about single moms who date. And I don’t like ‘em. I may be independent, but I still have my moments of insecurity and doubt every now and again, especially whenever my love life hits a bump in the road… just like every other single person out there. And the misconceptions don’t help with those insecurities. So… it’s high time that I set the records straight.

We’re not all looking for the next father for our kid(s).
Aiden already has his other parent. And even if he’s not as involved as I would expect a parent to be, he’s still Aiden’s other parent. So if I agree to go on one date, it’s not because I’m looking for Aiden’s next other parent. Negative. Not even close. I agree to go on dates for the same reason any other single person agrees to go on dates – companionship. That’s all. If it works out, like way, way, waaaayyy down the line, then I would hope that dude would be a father figure for Aiden, but not today. Or tomorrow. Or in three months.

We’re protective of our kid(s).
More often than not, the child of a single parent has already been through something major in their lives (like divorce or separation), and in Aiden’s case, a parental break-up. So I’m protective of him, and rightfully so gosh darn it! I once had a guy ask if he could take both Aiden and me out… for a first date. Umm… heck no! I’m sure he was trying to do the “I can totally be a good step-father” thing and whatnot, but I wasn’t having that. There’s no easy way to put this, but to me, it just sounds pedophile-esque. If and when the time is right, I’ll be happy to introduce Aiden to the guy I’m seeing. But not a second sooner.

We’d want to date the guy, not his bank account.
Not all single mothers are gold-diggers, just like not all women are gold-diggers. Baby, I have my own money and my own bank account. And I think I’m doing pretty well so I don’t need Mr. Man to hold it down for me financially. That being said, with the right guy, it’s… nice. It’s nice to have someone to share with and depend upon if/when it’s necessary. Which brings me to my next point…

We appreciate when Mr. Man pays for dates.
Not all of the dates. But some of them. Like I said, it’s… nice. I’m independent and self-sufficient, but damn, I’m not rich. So while I won’t expect Mr. Man to offer to pay for babysitting and all, fronting the bill for dinner and drinks is a little gesture that’ll go a long way. If dude thinks that that’s too expensive, he should just think about how much babysitting costs per hour. And then offer to pay.

We appreciate when Mr. Man plans in advance.
Calling to ask me out the same day will not work most of the time. My babysitters have lives too. Not to mention, it’s just bad forum to call a girl up the same day and ask for a date. So even if I wasn’t a mother, I’d have an issue with it. It would make me feel as though dude’s first choice fell through and he thought I was second best. Homie don’t play that.

We’re busy.
If I say “I’m busy, Aiden has ______,” it’s usually because I’m actually busy and Aiden actually has ______. I’m not “playing hard to get” (not too hard anyway) and I’m not playing games. I’m just busy. However, if I chronically use that line on the same dude, eek! Well, that’s just single mom speak for “not interested.”

Now… everyone share this list with a single, hot, well-mannered, driven, smart, fun, ambitious, and sexy guy that you know and tell him good things about me. Just kidding. (Sorta.)

Supermom and Superwoman: Balancing It All

2012-01-26T02:47:00.000-05:00

Time to time, I receive messages and emails from people asking something along the lines of, "How do you balance it all and manage to fit it all in?" While I am absolutely flattered that readers feel comfortable coming to me to ask questions, etc, I must say that I am in no way an expert on balancing life as a single mother. But I try because that's what truly counts in life anyway, right?

One way that I always answer the question is something along the lines of this: I try to prioritize as much as possible. Sometimes that looks different depending on the week. Case in point: this week Aiden has Kindergarten interviews so that has been my main focus.

(By the way, I'm totally having a "Argh... I hate NYC and the entire private school admissions process/Why didn't I move to the suburbs?/ Why can't every kid just go to a good school?" type of week. So be sure to send Aiden your well wishes. But I digress...) Between prepping myself for typical interview questions, trying not to be nervous in front of Aiden, and ~~bribing him with ice cream~~ encouraging him with the little rewards, I've been a busy bee.

But it's always like that. I'm always busy.

My focus just shifts depending on the week. Sometimes I stay up until 3am to write articles, sometimes I'm too tired so I go to bed by midnight. Sometimes I cover media events around NYC. Sometimes I want to be able to tuck Aiden in bed and read him a bedtime story.

Sometimes I need to give our apartment my attention by cleaning and cooking and all that jazz. Sometimes I'd rather contribute to the mess by playing with Aiden on the floor (floor puzzles seem to be his favorite activity at the moment). Sometimes I need a rigorous hour-long kick-ass workout. Sometimes I need a low key 30-minute hey-this-is-better-than-nothing walk.

Sometimes I need to go-go-go to get ish done. Sometimes I need to slow down and meditate. Sometimes I need to go out on the town with my girlfriends because that gives me a different kind of energy. Sometimes I need to stay in because, well, I just don't feel like going out.

But what I always, always, always do is this one thing: prioritize what needs to get done for the next week or two and make a reasonable plan to get it done. ("Reasonable" being the operative word here.) And then I move on to the next thing. And I make a reasonable plan to get that done. And so on and so forth. And slowly, but surely, things get done.

So I guess the "secret" is this: I can balance multiple things because my full focus, energy, and attention are only on one or two of those things at a time.

What about you? How do you balance it all and get things done?

Staying Faithful to Your New Year's Resolution

2012-01-25T08:25:00.000-05:00

By Marie Hunter

A new year has begun and with it, resolutions have been declared. Lose weight/start a diet, quit smoking, travel more – whatever you've chosen to change in your life, know that you can be successful. You'll need to be dedicated but you don't have to see your resolve disappear before the spring thaw.

While it's great to be ambitious, don't overshoot the moon. If you want to lose weight or start a new diet, always be sure to be kind to yourself. You're human; if you 'slip' and eat something that's not on your new plan, remember that it's not the end of the world. You can get back on track with your next meal, all while the world continues revolving. Consider using a service like grocery delivery to make sure you have fresh fruits and vegetables on hand. Making things easier on yourself can help you be successful and give you the time to focus on goals related to your resolution, such as getting to the gym for a workout.

It's best to be specific with your resolutions, although it's wise to leave a little wiggle room. For instance, if you have vowed to become a vegetarian this year but you've been a carnivore your whole life, take things slowly. Start with a modest goal, such as two vegetarian meals during the week. Doing so will give your body time to adjust to your new way of eating and won't feel you leaving deprived should you want a hamburger. Similarly, go slowly when it comes to difficult tasks like quitting smoking. Again, you can be successful. If you're smoking a pack a day in January and haven't completely quit by your March 1 deadline, don't stress. Make notice of the progress you've made and continue towards your eventual goal.

Getting away for a weekend trip or vacation is certainly fun, which is likely why people around the world vow to travel more when declaring their resolutions for the New Year. Make plans for your future getaways and make some definite plans. If you enjoy hiking, consider planning a trip that will allow you to explore new terrain. Being a bit concrete about your goals can help you see them to completion, rather than sitting by the proverbial window and dreaming about a someday road trip to some city. If you always drive, consider taking the train. Buy your tickets and schedule time away from work so that you'll actually take the trip instead of pushing plans to the back burner where they will linger and be forgotten until it's time to make resolutions in December.

It's easier said than done, but don't beat yourself up if one of your resolutions doesn't turn out the way you want it to. For instance, a goal of learning a new musical instrument is noble, but don't feel you've failed if you're not ready to perform a solo with the local orchestra by the time summer arrives. Always keep in mind the progress you've made, that you made a big change in the first place, and what you've gained and learned since declaring your resolution. You'll probably surprise yourself at just how much you've changed without realizing it.

About the Author: Maire enjoys baking Snickerdoodles, crafting with her niece and nephews, going on hikes with friends, and blogging on behalf of Sears and other brands she trusts.

What "Fresh Diet" Taught Me About Dieting (And Myself)

2012-01-23T23:50:00.000-05:00

Last week, I kept in line with the "2012 is totally going to be our best year" theme and talked about sampling a food delivery service, Fresh Diet. After a week of having my meals prepared, packaged in the right portion sizes for me, and delivered to my doorsteps, I feel like Cinderella must have felt at the strike of midnight.

Sigh. Back to reality. And back to cooking again. Double sigh.

Now remember, with Fresh Diet, you get to chose your meals (amongst many) and then the chef prepares three fresh, healthy, calorie-controlled meals and two snacks for you. The meals are then delivered to your home. Everyday. Personally, I really enjoyed the service and the fact that my meals were prepared for me. The presentation of the food was creative and appealing. And tasty.

{Mandarin cheese crepes with fresh strawberries}

This trial week taught me a few things about dieting and about myself. Here goes:

1. I'm really lazy when I have someone else preparing my meals for me. And, like, I totally forget that I have a kid and he needs to eat too. (And nope, I didn't share my already prepared meals with him.)

2. I like carbs. A lot.

3. I don't eat a lot. Like the whole, "Eat five small meals per day" thing? Yeah, that's not me. At all. I eat less than five meals per day.

4. I suck at dieting. Really. When I was choosing my meals, a message would always pop up that read something along the lines of, "You shouldn't choose that for dinner because you chose a 'heavy' lunch." Okay. I guess...

5. I like carbs. A lot. (Did I say that already?)

6. I think it's a much better idea to commit to a healthier lifestyle/eating habits than trying to "go on a diet." I mean, if I was really on a diet last week and the Fresh Diet online system wasn't there to tell me not to choose certain meals, I would have totally chosen them. And then my "diet" would have, well, no longer been a diet.

7. Support systems are so important when you're trying to change your lifestyle. Even if it's an online system telling you not to choose certain meals and showing you what a real balanced meal looks like. Which is why Fresh Diet is pretty neat. It's a good support system, but not a nagging one.

{Jamaican chicken wrap with fruit chutney}

Want to try Fresh Diet for yourself? Fresh Diet is currently offering a deal to Mommy Delicious readers. Start today for $29.99 per day and get 3 days FREE. Visit the website to take advantage of this special offer or call 866-FRESH-50 (866-373-7450) and use the promo code: singlejan3

{Disclosure: This post is being sponsored by Fresh Diet. I was also being provided with a week trial offer in order to facilitate this review.}

Freckleface Strawberry: The Musical

2012-01-21T11:34:00.001-05:00

Last weekend, Aiden and I bundled up and headed to the Manhattan Movement and Arts Center (MMAC) Theatre in Midtown Manhattan to see Freckleface Strawberry, The Musical!

The musical is based on actress Julianne Moore's best-selling children's book, "Freckleface Strawberry," which emphasizes self-acceptance and self-love. Just as in the book, in the musical, the protagonist Strawberry, battles with accepting and owning the fact that she has freckles all over her face. She tries several things to hide them, including scrubbing them off and wearing a mask. She wishes she was someone else -- one of the other characters. Meanwhile, all of the the other characters battle their own issues with self-acceptance. And not only the stereotypical "nerds," but also the "jocks," "perfect girl," and "popular kids."

Freckleface Strawberry is more than a musical. It is a message. And one for the entire family because we've all been there before. We've all struggled to love the skin we're in at some point. We've all felt self-conscious about something before. I know I have. I've written about it too. Seeing the characters struggle with everyday issues and then trying to resolve those inner conflicts is a great way to open the dialogue about self-acceptance with our children. It is also a great transition into talking about bullying and the power of our words. (The affects of teasing is touched upon in the musical.)

As Aiden and I sat in our front row seats, we became engrossed in the performance. I was worried that little dude wouldn't be able to sit for the entire performance, but between the wonderful choreography, the energetic songs, and the engaging acting, he was completely mesmerized. And so was I. I found myself dancing along with the cast members, laughing, and singing. Such fun!

After the performance, we were able to meet the cast members, pose for photo ops, and get their autographs! Score!

Performances for Freckleface Strawberry, The Musical are Saturdays and Sundays at 1pm and 3pm. Tickets can be ordered through Telecharge at 212. 239.6200. Visit the website for more information. DISCOUNT CODE: Use code MAMADRAMA at the box office or online for $40 tickets. Click HERE to order your discounted tickets.

{Disclosure: I received tickets to this performance via MamaDrama in order to facilitate this review. All opinions expressed herein are my own.}

Jessica Alba Launches "The Honest Company"

2012-01-20T02:04:00.001-05:00

{The beautiful and elegant Jessica Alba}

This week was a pretty epic one for Jessica Alba, environmentalist, author, and mom of two little cutie pie girls. Along with Christopher Gavigan, former CEO of Healthy Child Healthy World, author, and dad, Jessica gave birth to her "third baby," as she describes it -- The Honest Company.

The Honest Company is an eco-friendly line of family essentials that is offered through a monthly subscription service at Honest.com. After attending the media event for the launch of the company earlier this week, can I just say... wowsa! Folks, I am thoroughly impressed. The Honest Company is the real deal! I love that it was created for parents by parents, and the creators are committed to making safe and sustainable products that we could all use more convenient, more stylish, and most of all, more affordable. (Can I get an "amen"?)

{Co-Founders Jessica Alba & Christopher Gavigan}

Says Jessica, "I've spent way too many hours researching products and driving around trying to find safer, eco-friendly options for my kids. I knew that most people didn't have that kind of time, nor the means to pay the premium prices. We had to make it easier."

And made it easier she did! Not only does The Honest Company line carry essential products all families universally need -- diapers, wipes, bath/skin care, and household cleaning products all made from completely natural, non-toxic ingredients -- but the products are curated into personalized bundles, automatically shipped and delivered right to your doorsteps. Every. Single. Month. Doesn't get much simpler than that, folks. (As I said before, I am thoroughly impressed.) And the products smell good too! I've been applying the lotion all week and love that it goes on so smoothly.

{The Eco-Friendly line}

{How stylish and fashionable are
these diapers?! Love!}

The media event was hosted by Nicole, the beauty and brains behind the Momtrends brand, a company that I am happy to be apart of as a freelance writer. And boy does Nicole know how to throw a party! Flocks of Bloggers and other media personnel headed out to ABC Kitchen in Union Square, NYC for the soiree. We mixed, mingled, and sipped specialty drinks, including a signature cocktail for the event. This single momma had one too many cocktails (and not enough dinner) and felt a bit tipsy by the end of the night. Luckily I had Serena (Mama Goes Natural) to accompany me on my trip home.

Doesn't Nicole look absolutely stunning?!

{L to R:Christopher Gavigan, Nicole @MomTrends, Jessica Alba}

Apparently Jessica and I got the dress code memo: black blouse, colorful blazer, beautiful smiles. I scored this cobalt blue blazer from Zara and I've been in love ever since!

{Mommy Delicious and Jessica Alba}

Want to try The Honest Company line out for yourself? Of course you do! Get a FREE Discovery Kit that includes a sample pack of diapers and wipes, or trial-sized versions of the bath, skin and cleaning products. Visit Honest.com to set up your account and get you some of that eco-friendly good stuff! (You're welcome!)

Here's to saving the world... one fashionable diaper at a time!

*Photos via Sherri Schubert of MomTrends.com.

{Thanks so much to MomTrends for hosting such a great event. Event attendees received a gift bag. All opinions expressed herein are my own.}

Have You Found Your "Happy"?

2012-01-19T11:51:00.000-05:00

The other day, I saw a status update on a friends Facebook page that really struck a chord with me. It read something like, "When you learn that happiness is a choice, you begin to make different choices..." Choose happiness.

A few weeks ago, I was having a conversation with an old [single] girlfriend. She was going on and on about how sad (and lonely) she was/is because she lacks that special someone in her life. She went so far as to say that she felt almost cried the previous night because she wanted to go out, but didn't have a guy to go out with.

Sigh.

I get it. Sometimes being single can feel lonely. But I'm a firm believer in being proactive to create the life that you want and surrounding yourself with things that make you... happy. I'm a firm believer in choosing happiness. So naturally my response was that she should have called a few of her girlfriends up and make plans to hit up one of their favorite spots in the city. Easy enough. Her response? She wanted to go out with a man. Okay. I'm single. I can totally dig wanting to be all boo'ed up for a Saturday-night date night. My response? "Well, how are you going to find 'him' if you're at home moping around on a Saturday night. You're young (she's, like 25 or something), go out, have fun, enjoy your 20's."

Then I made the mistake of putting myself into the equation. I said, "I'm single and I have fun. You can always come out with my friends and me should you feel the need." Her response? "Maybe marriage is not for you; I [pointing to herself] am a relationship girl."

Pause.

I was in no mood to fight that battle on that lovely Sunday afternoon.

I'm sure there's a reason why I'm here... at this particular place in my life. (And you. And you.) There's some lesson to be learned, some experience to become engrossed in, some goal to achieve. It's not entirely easy learning how to be alone and enjoy your own company, but I do think that it is necessary. Not to mention, once you're there, it is pretty awesome.

Sure I'd like to have someone to share my life with -- the dope things and the dreadful things -- when the time is right. But, until then, I'm choosing happiness. If I want to go out, best believe that I call my girls up and say something along the lines of, "Let's do something fun. Get dressed, we're going [insert name of favorite spot here]." One doesn't find happiness by simply being in a relationship. That's a huge myth, if there ever was one, and those who think that's the case are in for a rude awakening.

I feel like I'm finally at the point where I'm making conscious decisions to just... be happy. It's not always easy because sometimes it requires making difficult decisions, but the peace of mind and serenity is totally worth it.

I once read, "This is your life. Do what you love and do it often... If you are looking for the love of your life, stop. They will be waiting for you when you start doing things that you love" and things that make you happy.

I found my "happy" and I'm holding on to it come heck or high water.

Have you found yours? What are you doing to hold on to it?

From Regular Mom to Millionaire Mom

2012-01-18T09:24:00.000-05:00

By Suzanne Cramer

Being a single mom is rewarding, but takes its toll in many ways; financially speaking being a single parent makes it tough to make your financial health a priority.

To better prepare yourself for your future it's important to take steps to save for retirement, emergencies, and goals you may have. Saving is an intricate piece of your financial puzzle and should be made a priority.

Let's find out if you are financially on track.

Have you figured out what you need to retire?

Many of us haven't, according to the Retirement Confidence Survey, Only about four out of ten of us have tried to calculate what it would take for a comfortable retirement, and one-third of those who have can't remember what figure they came up with. Without knowing how to get where you need to be how can you develop a plan to get there?

CNN Money offers a simple yet effective retirement calculator to help you determine what you need to save today for your future.

Do you save a portion of your income regularly?

According to MSN Money the current U.S. savings rate is below 1 percent; are you part of that 1%? If so, let me stress to you the importance of saving at least 5% of your income; coupled with investing you can continue to grow your nest egg for a comfortable retirement.

Do you pay off your credit cards every month?

Carrying a balance on your credit cards is a dangerous trap to fall into. That balance may be costing you more than you think each month in interest and fees.

Responsible credit card use involves paying off your balance each month and making timely payments, failure to do so results in higher interest rates and late fees.

If you are currently only paying the minimums or are getting behind on payments now is the time to develop a plan for paying down your debt. If you are not sure how to get started consider reviewing this article on your debt relief options.

Are you protecting what you have?

As a single parent your kids depend on you to take care of them, but what if? It is imperative that you review all of your insurance plans to ensure you have the right coverage for you.

Health insurance
Life insurance
Auto insurance
Homeowners or rental insurance

Today millions of Americans are without health insurance or adequate coverage; the financial losses suffered by an unexpected medical emergency are enough to frighten anyone.

Are you taking the right steps to achieve your financial goals? Saving is not always easy especially when raising children on your own. Making savings a line item in your budget will help you to pay yourself first and help prepare you for the unexpected and your future.

Suzanne Cramer is a certified credit counselor and a Social Media Specialist for CareOne Debt Relief Services. Suzanne writes for Divorce, Debt and Finances and Major Life Challenges. Follow Suzanneon Twitter @ADivorcedMom where she shares her insights as a single-divorced mom with tips and tricks to keep your finances in check.

New Years Resolution #1: Tip the Dating Scales in Your Favor

2012-01-17T01:59:00.000-05:00

In keeping in line with the theme of making 2012 the year we all live totally dope lives (I'm sure you recall the goal-setting post, the dating resolutions post, the five ways to live a fuller life post, and the post about our personal finances...whew!), let's take a moment to talk about our diet (and weight).

Resolving to "finally drop ten pounds" or "get rid of the baby, er, toddler weight" is, like, so 2011. This year, let's all resolve to live a healthier lifestyle, okay? OKAY? When the lifestyle changes, the weight loss will happen. Eventually. Slow and steady wins the race, remember? Always.

{Mandarin cheese crepes with fresh strawberries}

While I am not trying to lose weight at all (actually, I wouldn't mind a bigger booty at the moment... *wink*), I love the idea of resolving to be mindful of our lifestyle and diet choices. Which is why I was particularly curious to try out Fresh Diet for a week.

Not only are three fresh, healthy, calorie-controlled meals and two snacks prepared for me on a daily basis, but it is delivered right to my door steps (well, to my doorman, who then gives it to me, but you get the point...). And, check this out? I'm choosing the meals each day (from many selections) so that I can ensure that I'll enjoy it. If I forget to choose my meal (even after they send me a friendly email reminder), the chef will choose a meal for me based on my likes and dislikes, which are saved on my online profile.

For those of you who do want to lose weight, the Fresh Diet can help you tip the scales in your favor. For people on the Fresh Diet, the average weight loss is 1-3 pounds per week/ 10 pounds per month. With an average of 1200-1400 calorie range for women (and 1400 -- 2200 for men), it's a great way for busy people to lose weight and get healthy.

{Jamaican chicken wrap with fruit chutney}

Fresh Diet is graciously offering Mommy Delicious readers a great deal. Start today for $29.99 per day and get 3 days free with the purchase of a 31 day plan. As a bonus, they're giving a six-day supply of Hint Premium Essence Water and a fitness DVD from Jessica Smith to help kick your weight loss plan up a notch!

Go to the website to take advantage of this special offer or call 866-FRESH-50 (866-373-7450) and use the promo code: singlejan3

{Disclosure: This post is being sponsored by Fresh Diet. I am also being provided with a week trial offer in order to facilitate this review.}

The Sequined Blazer at Cocktails with Belle

2012-01-16T12:12:00.000-05:00

{Jacket, pants, necklace: American Eagle;
Lips and eyes: Bobbi Brown;
boots: Colin Stuart;
bracelets: Aldo's}

Last week was an uuber busy one for this delicious single mama. When I wasn't getting financially fit with GoGirl Finance, having a date night with my friend L, or making dinner at my friend K's place, I was attending a networking event on Manhattan's Lower East Side.

{L to R: Nika, Demetria Lucas, Yours Truly}

To celebrate the continued success of her book, A Belle in Brooklyn: The Go-to Girl for Advice on Living Your Best Single Life, and the launch of her life coaching company, Coached by Belle, Demetria Lucas (aka: Belle), co-hosted the highly sort after "Cocktails with Belle" at the swanky and cozy Ludlow Manor.

{Nika and I}

I met up with my girl from college Nika of Cultivated Chic to mix and mingle at the event. Between the cupcakes, cocktails, and good music, I think it's safe to say that we had a great time.

{Red velvet cupcakes by CakeMan Raven}

{Photo by: MacKenten Petion/ RINY Media}

{This jacket is my latest obsession}

{It's a celebration every time we link up}

I wore my latest fashion obsession -- a sequined blazer by American Eagle, which I paired with skinny jeans from the same brand. There are so many different ways to pair the cropped blazer so I hope you find an outfit inspiration!

Happy Mode Monday!

Get Financially Fit with GoGirl Finance

2012-01-13T10:39:00.001-05:00

Judging by the articles that I've written and posted on this place and space lately, it's becoming quite evident that I want 2012 to be the first year of the best years of our lives. I started out with setting dating resolutions (hey, a single mom has got to have them). Next I spoke about using vision boards and nipping fear in the bud to accomplish our goals. Then I spoke about ways to enhance our lives so that it can be fuller.

Man, I'm on a roll! Are you ready for more? (I thought so!)

Today let's talk about finances. Because, let's face it: being healthy in our mind, body, and soul is great. But being financially fit and having financial knowledge is the ultimate gift that a woman can give herself. I'm no Finance Guru, but I am a champion of being financially savvy and learning more about securing an even better and solid future for Aiden and me.

That's why I was so excited to attend an event co-hosted by GoGirl Finance and Manisha Thakor (personal finance expert and co-author of On My Own Feet and Get Financially Naked: How to Talk Money with Your Honey).

On the night of the event, a group of women determined to make 2012 our best year yet migrated to Manhattan's Upper East Side to the Warren-Tricomi Salon for post-holiday beauty treatments (mini-makeovers, mani's and blowouts), cocktails, conversations, and financial literacy basics.

The Founder of GoGirl Finance, Caryn, is determined to help women effectively prepare ourselves for our financial futures, which, as she states, "would give us power as we work through the inevitable hardships that define human life."

{Dress: H&M;
Over-the-knee-flat-boots: Steve Madden;
Necklace: Michael C. Fina;
Lips: MAC Plum Fun}

That's why I think an event like this one was/is so important. It's not easy for women to talk about money... Maybe it's because we don't understand as much as we would like to about it. (Surveys show that women remain less financially literate compared to their male counterparts.*)

Maybe it's because we can have a tendency to spend frivolously. (We needed those $200 pair of pumps. No, we don't already have those same pumps. We have the black suede ones... now we need the black leather ones, duh!)

Maybe it's because numbers scare us. (Raise your hand if you're still traumatized by that calculus class from freshman year of college. Or statistics course from sophomore year. Oh, wait... is that just me?!)

{Babysitting mishaps so I brought
along my Plus One, Aiden}

But events like this help us to begin the dialogue. Which is oh so necessary. While Manisha discussed several things at the event like talking about money with your significant other (couples who argue about money are more likely to split, but you knew that already, right?), one thing that I took away from the event and I hope helps you as well is this: Start. Saving. Now.

Seriously.

If you save $5,000/year in your 20's, by the time you're ready to retire around the ages of 65 or 70, you'll have... err... a lot more money saved up than if you start saving in your 40's. I started saving when I was fresh out of undergrad and working full time. When I left work to enter grad school, I stopped saving. But now that I'm finished with grad school and back to working full time, I am truly encouraged and inspired to... Start. Saving. Now.

{Not sure what was going on in this convo, but judging
by the picture, I was pretty engrossed in it}

{Tweeting and entertaining my Plus One. #Multitasking}

Thank you so much to GoGirl Finance and Manisha Thakor for co-hosting such a great event. Thanks so much to the gorgeous Jill (Glamamom) and the ever beautiful Sarah (The Stroller Ballet) for helping organize the event. You ladies rock. All of you!

{Event attendees received a gift bag, which contained a copy of Manisha's latest book.}

*Financial Finesse Inc., "Research on the Gender Gap in Financial Literacy." 2009.

Five Ways To Live A Full(er) Life

2012-01-11T09:50:00.000-05:00

Lately I’ve been feeling extra blessed and extra content with where my life is right now. I’m so happy not only to be in a really good place, but also to feel as though I’m in a really good place because, as optimistic as I like to think that I am, as a single mom, there were times in the past that I didn’t think this feeling would be possible.

I want this feeling to last as long as possible. So lately I’ve been thinking about ways to enhance my life even more. Chalk it up to the New Year. (Not to mention that there’s always room for growth.) As such, I’ve taken stock of my life and realize that there are a few things that I need to be more conscious of as I continue to ride out 2012 and beyond. I need to be conscious of:

How often I actually listen to what my body is trying to tell me.
Sometimes if my shoulders and back (and thighs and feet) could talk, they’d scream at me for the maltreatment. I’m not talking about exercising and working out because please believe that this single mama gets her workouts in there three times per week (for the most part). I’m talking about the “go-go-go-I-must-do-it-all-and-do-it-well-by-trying-to-find-the-25th-hour-in-the-day” type attitude. I can be one heck of a Supermom (woman) from time to time and I can do it all (and do it well), but as the saying goes, “even Superwoman took a break – a commercial.” Sometimes I need to remember that I am NOT a machine. I need to unplug and sleep. And rejuvenate. In order to continue doing all that I do (and doing it well).

How often I meditate and reflect on where my life is and on my goals.
This one (sort of) goes along with the first one. Whether it’s once per week or once per month, I need to stop and reflect on what I’m doing. Is it rewarding? How so? Is it elevating me in anyway? How so? Is it beneficial to both Aiden and me? How so? If I do not have a satisfying answer to these questions, then I need to change some things up. I need to be able to take control over the things that I have control over. Likewise, I need to accept the things that I cannot control. This will surely help me stay on track while constantly working towards my goals.

Head on over to The Young Mommy Life to read the rest of this article and let me know how you're taking stock of your life so that it can be FULL and FULFILLING.

Facebook Timeline and Seasons of Life

2012-01-09T09:59:00.001-05:00

By now, I’m sure you’ve heard of Facebook and The Timeline, also known as the thing that freaked me out and almost made me want to cancel my Facebook account. Almost.

Since joining Facebook in 2004 (back when it was called "The Facebook"), I’ve posted almost every… single… micro-thought... that I’ve had as a status update. Well, maybe not every micro thought. But enough for me to freak out a little bit over making the big switch to The Timeline. So before I made the switch, I went back through my Timeline to delete and/or hide things that I did not want to remember, let alone want other people to see. My girl from college, L even threatened to “delete everything from 2004 – 2009.” As she said, "some things should just not be seen."

In case you didn’t know, Facebook Timeline dates back to when you first joined the social network and puts everything out there. Nothing's off limits -- drunken nights with friends in college; my two ex boyfriends (before Aiden’s other parent existed) who posted on my wall almost everyday (I deleted many of those posts once I made the switch); pictures with the kissy faces (like my good friend from college T, said, “why didn’t we just smile in those pics?!") – EVERYTHING!

Then there were the status updates. Some are from good days and some are from not-so-good days. Good months and not-so-good months. An overall good year and an overall not-so-good year. 2005 and 2006 were really good years on Facebook. 2007 and 2008, eh, not so much. I graduated, entered the real world, and had a baby. Unexpectedly. Needless to say, lots of ups and downs occurred in 2007 and 2008.

And I can’t forget the funny quotes from Aiden in 2009-2011, which I’ve been meaning to compile into a book of sorts (something else to add to my 2012 to-do list). My favorite? “Mommy, the wind is pushing me. The wind is not being nice.” Cuteness.

While I didn’t freak out about The Timeline as much as I thought I would have (guess I finally put my big girl pants on, as per my post about Facebook this time last year... what a difference a year makes), The Timeline has taught me at least two things about life:

(1) It is perfectly okay to be who you are and say what you feel. Embrace it because that’s what makes you you.

Looking back at my pictures, status updates, and things that friends have posted to my wall, I know that I’m allowed to be just… me. I’m allowed to act like myself. Act like a 21-year-old who's attending a university that's very intense and replete with people who work hard and play harder. Act like a scared 22-year-old who's about to graduate college and try to "make it" in this world. Act like a 25-year-old who's trying to find her way in the world with a baby in tow. Act like a 27-year-old single mom.

(2) Life really is all about seasons.

And there really is a time for everything. A time to laugh. A time to cry. A time for taking drunken pictures with kissy faces. A time for being a mature grown-up in the professional world. A time for being all boo'ed up. A time for being single. A time for giving life. A time where significant life changes warrant alone time (I pretty much disappeared from the Facebook world when I found out I was pregnant and a few months following Aiden's birth). A time for mourning the loss of past friendships and relationships. A time for new beginnings. A time for moving on. A time for growth and growing pains and growing up.

The key is to embrace each of these moments and cherish each of these seasons. When we're right in the thick of it, we can't see it, but they are fleeting moments. They come and go quite quickly. And if we're not careful, we'll miss out on the lesson that we're supposed to learn from them. Or the thing we're supposed to take away from them.

Remember, "happiness is a journey, not a destination..."

How are you embracing the different seasons in your life?

{By the way, if you're not apart of the Mommy Delicious Facebook page, you should jump all over that! It's where all the cool kids are hanging out.}

Dating Resolutions for 2012

2012-01-05T04:01:00.000-05:00

Remember the golden night out that my girlfriends and I had on New Years Eve? Well by the end of that night, I created a few dating resolutions for 2012. I'm over on HowAboutWe.com's site, The Date Report talking about all of them.

Click here to head on over and check it out. Facebook "likes" and tweets are always appreciated. I know, I know... self-pimping. At it's finest.

Happy Dating!

You Can Achieve Your Goals. All Of Them.

2012-01-04T10:49:00.000-05:00

There's just something about New Years that has everyone contemplating on goals and dreams and resolving to do one thing or the other to achieve those goals and dreams.

{Photo: yourgoalbook.com}

I stopped making resolutions a few years ago and instead I started focusing more on my goals. I started plotting, planning, and mapping out exactly how I would achieve them. And I'm happy to say that, for the most part, it has worked for me. As I rang in 2012, I felt extremely blessed because I feel as though I am right where I'm supposed to be in my life. I've written about this before. Although I'm experiencing lots of growing pains, I'm in a really good place right now. And it's pretty exciting. I feel so empowered and as though I can achieve all of my goals. With lots of hard and smart work, of course.

I was over on The Young Mommy Life (a site that's, like, totally the bomb) and was very proud to see that Founder and Editor, Tara, along with seven other young mothers have published an e-book -- a collection of essays that'll serve as a survival guide for busy moms. Pretty dope, right? Click here to get your copy. These ladies set a goal and worked diligently to see it come to fruition. And that's what it's all about.

Working. Hard. Slowly and steady, one day at a time, one goal at a time.

I'm here to tell you that in 2012, you can achieve ALL of your goals. Each and every one of them. Write it down, create a vision board, scribble it on some nice stationary and hang it up on the refrigerator, tape it to the bathroom mirror, whatsoever it takes to remind you of YOUR goals.

{Photo: ideas2life.blogspot.com}

And then get to work. Grind, push, press.... hard. Don't be afraid to ask questions when necessary. (After all, what's the worst that can happen? You'll still be breathing after you ask. Pinky swear on it.) Don't be afraid to go after something that you want. Don't be afraid to try new and different things. Don't be afraid to make mistakes and learn from those mistakes. Don't be afraid to reach out for help. Don't be afraid to do whatever it takes. Basically... don't be SCURRED! (A little slang for ya!)

You don't have to be the fastest and you don't have to be the strongest. "The race is not for the swift or the strong," remember? All you have to have is endurance. Keep. Pushing. Forward... and do that damn thing!

And I'll be one of the first ones to meet you on the other side to say, "congratulations... you did it!"

A Golden New Years Eve!

2012-01-02T12:22:00.000-05:00

Happy New Year lovelies!

{Dress: Bebe; Necklace: American Eagle 77Kids;
Nails: OPI Kardashian Kollection & MILANI Gold;
Earrings, ring, clutch, tights: Aldo Accessories:
Shoes: Steve Madden;
Lips: MAC Plum Fun;
Eyes: Bobbi Brown}

Well my dress wasn't exactly gold, but my jewelry was so the title of the post isn't entirely misleading. And my night was also pretty darn GOLDEN, if you know what I mean. To celebrate one of the most exciting nights of the year, some of my girlfriends and I headed out to Chelsea/West Village to party like rockstars! Woot!

As I mentioned in this beauty post, my original plan was to wear a gold mini dress and jazz it up with a red clutch. But then I fell in love with this sequined clutch and it's chic and trendy colors. And I just had to have it! (You know how that is.) So I painted my nails in a royal blue and sequined gold to match the fabulousness that is the clutch and added this oversized ring. What do you think?

The champagne-colored mini dress featured a slight sweetheart neckline for the perfect feminine and sexy look (last seen here when I celebrated my birthday). I loved the way the dress looked on my birthday, but I was going for an entirely different look this time. So... I paired the dress with patterned tights with rose detailing and 5-inch Steve Madden peep-toe heels with three bows lining the front of the shoe (last seen here). It was the perfect combo of chic and edgy (or sweet and badass, as I like to say).

Entirely different look? I think so! Mission accomplished? Check the birthday post and you be the judge.

As for my girlfriends and I, we had a great time. Cue Beyonce's lyrics, "we like to partyyyy."

{M and Me}

{T and Me}

{L to R: Me, T, M, S, and J}

But don't worry... we didn't talk to boys.

Okay... I'm totally lying!

Cheers to the new year! What'd you guys wear to ring in 2012? Whether you were in your pajamas or party dresses, I hope your NYE was totally fabulous!

It's Called "Growing Pains" for A Reason

2011-12-30T09:37:00.000-05:00

2011 is a year that'll certainly go down as "The Year of Growth" for me. (And you.) I've shared so many lessons that I've learned on this place and space and you contributed by sharing the lessons that you've learned as well. Thank you.

That's what the 20's is all about, right? Making the mistakes, learning the lessons, and growing from them, right?

Yesterday, I shared a few kick-ass moments that Mommy Delicious experienced in 2011 and I couldn't let the year come to a close without highlighting the "growing pains" moment. 2011 kicked my ass, but in a good way. After putting my big girl pants on, I (we) grew a ton. And I can say that I am truly grateful for each and every "growing pains" moment. It has made me more self-aware, more confident, and more of a sweet-and-patient-but-don't-eff-with-me type of person. I've come into my own, so to speak. And that's a blessing. And it's all because of these moments:

Resilient Women Learn the Lesson... And Move Forward -- I couldn't have asked for a better lesson to help me start the year off.

A few weeks later, I reminded us that we are totally worth all things nice and sweet and warm and fuzzy and glorious. Because we are. Worth it. Totally.

I finished grad school and earned two masters as a single mom. Nuff said. #Winnning

My relationships with Aiden's other parent ended disastrously. But that was totally okay. Because I learned so many lessons from my ex. (And I learned when to fold 'em and say, "I'm done.")

I had an insanely fun week in Miami with my girlfriends all because I learned how to truly be alone in the previous months and fully embrace my "single gal" status.

I started dating Mr. Yummy. And he was yummy. And I learned a lesson from that episode too. (I hope.)

I've come into my own and learned (and I'm still learning) how to truly be myself, as hard as it could be at times. "Stand for something or you'll fall for anything," is what they say.

And we learned that, in spite of so many things, our kids are so totally freaking awesome. Really.

As I always say, thank you for being your awesome selves. Thank you for making this community all that it is. As I stated in the 2011 holiday post, wishing you loads of sweet moments, more successes than failures, more triumphs than trials, lots of superheroes to save the day, and a little more PINK!

Happy New Year!

Who's ready for 2012?! I can't wait to put these lessons into practice and learn even more!

Love you guys! xo

If I Never Started A Blog...

2011-12-29T01:39:00.000-05:00

With two full days left in 2011, I find myself reflecting and pondering on all the things that I want to bring into 2012 with me (and all the things that I want to leave behind because, let's face it, they do exist). For some reason earlier today, my mind kept going back to a simple (but not so simple) question -- what if I never started a blog?

Hmm... My life would certainly be different.

I would have never "met" the always awesome Tara of The Young Mommy Life and be able to contribute articles to her site proclaiming things like young (and single) parenthood can certainly be dope to the third power.

I would have never "met" My Brown Baby's Denene Millner (who is super nice with the verbs, by the way) and be able to talk about Black mothers and my fear of being labeled a statistic. (I spoke about that here too.)

I would have never been interviewed by Single Edition Media on all things single ladies and how, uh, our lives can totally be full and fulfilling and sweet and lovely so that if/when we find a mate worthy enough we'll have that much more to contribute to the relationship. #WORD

I would have never shared my most deepest darkest secret with you about being in an abusive relationship, which is actually not a secret anymore, but a totally empowering experience. Totally.

I would have never got to tour NYC in a helicopter ride and then taste Hershey's Air Delight from a hot air balloon. (I still get chills from that evening.)

I would have never been invited to join the eBay Parent Panel as a Brand Ambassador, mix and mingle with other Bloggers in Orlando, FL, have way too much fun at after after parties, and send drunk texts to love interests. #OopsMyBad

I would have never been able to write articles with dating websites like HowAboutWe.com's The Date Report. (Man, I'm putting my single status to good use.)

I would have never been invited to join the REDBOOK Magazine Motherboard Blog.

I would have never been able to sip cocktails with supermodels like Christy Turlington Burns, an assignment for my other freelance job, Momtrends, and then contemplate on all the freelance gigs/side hustles that seemed to have stemmed off of this blog.

Or would I?

But finally, I would have never been introduced to you. If you didn't already know, I love you guys. Like, plenty. This community means so much to me. I love that I can share my stories in a very raw and real way. And then you come. And you comment. And you email. And you message me. And you share your stories in a very raw and real way.

And that, that means so much to me. To this community.

So. As we close out another year and enter into 2012, I want to once again say, "thank you." Mommy Delicious wouldn't be half of what it is without you. And it's fabulous. Because of you.

Cheers! High fives all around!

10 Signs It's Time to Ditch Your Debt

2011-12-27T10:43:00.000-05:00

By Suzanne Cramer

Sometimes it is hard to tell what your breaking point really is when it comes to debt. After all you are paying all the bills each month, the problem is that you just don’t seem to be getting anywhere fast. You realize after taking a hard look at your financial situation that you have little to no savings for retirement or otherwise, and after a second look your interest rates on your credit cards are rising.

The debt may have accumulated slowly, over a period of time or in some cases rather quickly as a result of a life changing event. Knowing when you are in over your head and admitting you have a problem is the first step to financial freedom.

Here are ten signs it’s time to ditch your debt!

1. Your family or friends start to notice.

Maybe it’s a subtle hint or a blatant cry for help, but they know and they are worried. For example you start pulling away from invitations to dinner out or activities that you say you can’t afford. Or, maybe it’s a flat out hey, “I need to borrow some money to get by until next month.” Your family and friends are able to see the warning signs that maybe you can’t see, or will ignore; heed their warnings.

2. People are telling you that you have a problem with your debt.

They aren't being mean, they are being honest, and unlike your judgment, theirs is not clouded by the emotions surrounding financial problems.

3. Signs of physical or mental abuse.

Debt can be like a bad relationship and take its toll on your entire self; physically, emotionally, and financially. It’s important to know when your debt is starting to affect you. Perhaps it’s a diagnosis of depression, insomnia or anxiety brought on by your financial problems.

4. You've got a reputation. And it may not be a good one.

A reputation is earned, remember that. Are you the one with the creditors calling you at work, the bounced checks at the bank, or the denial letters after applying for a loan? Your credit reputation has been tarnished by your debt and it will follow you until you do something to fix it.

5. You are trapped in a love/hate relationship with your credit cards.

You love to use them, but you hate to pay on them. This toxic, vicious cycle is often the downfall for many causing their debt to spiral out of control. A card becomes maxed out so you open another, you can’t pay the monthly minimum on one of your cards so you charge it to another.

6. You lack effort.

Let’s face it relationships take work and your relationship with your debt is no different. You have to “put in the time” and nurture the relationship. Establish and stick to a budget, remember to pay your bills on time, and call when you are going to be late.

7. You feel isolated.

You no longer hang out with friends and family for fear it will involve spending money. You keep those close to you at arms length, so they don’t catch on to your money problems.

8. You feel controlled by your debt.

You avoid answering the phone because you fear it may be a creditor on the other end. Your debt is controlling your life, how you behave, and where you can go. You feel your lifestyle has to change as a result of being controlled by your debt.

9. Shopping is your hobby.

If you are unable to enjoy life without having new things or spending money, this is a recipe for debt that will eventually catch up with you.

10. You blame everyone else for your debt problems.

It’s time to take responsibility. While it isn't your fault you got fired; broke your leg and couldn’t work, or went through a divorce; its time to own the situation and your life.

Just as recovering from a breakup or an addiction is a process, so is ditching your debt. It took time for you to create the debt; it’s going to take time to get out. Knowing what steps to take and what your options are is a great place to get started.

What were your signs it was time to ditch your debt? How did you feel when you realized you had a problem?

Suzanne Cramer is a certified credit counselor and a Social Media Specialist for CareOne Debt Relief Services. Suzanne writes for Divorce, Debt and Finances and Major Life Challenges. Follow Suzanneon Twitter @ADivorcedMom where she shares her insights as a single-divorced mom with tips and tricks to keep your finances in check.

2011 Love, Peace, Joy, and A Happy Holidays to You All!

2011-12-25T00:49:00.000-05:00

From our home to yours, from our hearts to yours...

{Front of 2011 Holiday Card via @TinyPrints}

{Back of 2011 Holiday Card via @TinyPrints}

{SantaLand 2011}

{Pure LOVE}

Wishing you loads of sweet moments, more successes than failures, more triumphs than trials, and LOTS of superheroes to save the day! xo

HAPPY HOLIDAYS!

Glam Ways to Beautify Your Holidays with Duane Reade

2011-12-23T15:02:00.000-05:00

Beauty addicts, boy have I got news for you! And it'll be sure to help you get your beauty fix just in time for a glamourous holiday. Pinky swear on it.

This week, I was invited to represent Collective Bias (#CBias) by visiting Duane Reade (#DReade) in order to take a peek at their LOOK Boutique, aka the new Mecca for all Beauti-licious folk. I was pretty excited to attend this glam event, which was hosted by the lovely Big City Moms. So much so that I rushed out of work at the appointed time and headed to the upper east side -- 86th and Lexington, to be exact. The LOOK Boutique is located on the store's second floor and it does NOT disappoint. Since it features some popular high-end products, the LOOK Boutique has a very Barney's-eque feel, but without the Barney's price tags, if you know what I mean.

After learning about Pur Minerals (made with all-natural products and minerals) and POP Beauty (a sure rival to Essie and OPI, in my humble opinion), I was able to meet with a consultant and test out different mascara and eye shadow. Talk about beauty heaven!

Since I'm on the hunt for a New Years Eve makeup look (this delicious single mama has got to look HOTT), I was quite giddy to learn of ways to spice up my already festive outfit (pictures to come, but I will be rocking a gold mini-dress, black tights, sexy heels, and a red clutch).

So here's the deal: it's looking like the nail polish will be from POP Beauty's nail glam collection. Maybe in a red? Thoughts?

I'm doing a smokey eye because, well, that's just dramatic and fabulous and I'll have the perfect gel eyeliner to make my eyes pop. I'm also thinking about lash extensions for the special occasion of ringing in 2012. Amaze? I think so!

{Smokey Eye Day to Play Clutch}

Overall, I think the event went off without a hitch. I was happy to learn that the already popular city drugstore has now added more reasons for city dwellers to love it -- a glamorous beauty department. Shop for trendy beauty products while picking up diapers and cleaning supplies? Don't mind if I do! Not only was the event loads of fun, but I was also able to put together my NYE look, which is like, totally important.

For more information, visit the Duane Reade website, follow them on Twitter, or find them on Facebook.

Thanks so much to Big City Moms for hosting such a GLAM event!

{Disclaimer: This post is sponsored and this shop has been compensated as part of a social shopper insights study for Collective Bias. (#CBias #DReade). Event attendees received a gift bag. All opinions expressed herein are my own.}

Single During the Holidays? It's All Good!

2011-12-23T10:30:00.001-05:00

Jingle Bell Rock. Santa Baby. Rocking Around the Christmas Tree. These are all holiday songs that’ll make you gag. That is, if you’re single and (slightly) bitter. Also, the thought of spotting a mistletoe and the thought of sitting through another holiday family dinner can make just about any single person want to pull their hair out. And when you’re a single mom, well, that feeling can easily be multiplied.

Last holiday season was the first year in a long time that I was single. And I was reminded of my solo status all the time. Everywhere I turned, there were couples. Happy couples. Overly happy couples. Wearing matching outfits. Cuddling. Ice skating hand-in-hand while wearing their matching outfits. I couldn’t help but to notice them. It was like holiday romance on steroids. Sheesh, talk about overkill!

But, since it was also the first holiday season that I was a single mom, I decided to pay less attention to the couples and their relationship status, and more attention to my little family of two and my relationship status. And so, I decided to embrace being a single mother by showing my son that it’s okay to enjoy the holidays with just us two. And you know what? It was okay. Here are some reasons why:

1. I didn’t have to make a list (and check it twice) of all the things my son’s other parent wanted. Sure there was no one to buy me a special gift, but with all the extra cash that I would have spent on a beau, I used it on Aiden and me. Buy an extra pair of Steve Madden’s over-the-knee boots? Don’t mind if I do!

2. I didn’t have to coordinate schedules with anyone else in order to plan something festive and fun for my son and me. Sounds selfish, but it’s true. Whenever I had time off from grad school or work, I’d pick Aiden up, pack a bag for both of us, and we just went places. To Rockefeller Center. To visit Santa at the Belvedere Castle in Central Park. Through 5^th Avenue. To say that it was beautiful and magical is an understatement.

3. I decorated my apartment in holiday décor the way that I wanted to decorate it. There was no one to say, “Put the Christmas tree in this corner,” “The garland should hang like this,” “That color combination looks weird.” (Ugh… shut the eff up!)

Read my other three reasons over on the REDBOOK Blog.

Happy Holidays!

Pondering on Brooklyn Happenings

2011-12-23T00:32:00.004-05:00

By Shaniqua Garvin

Still fairly new (2008) to the borough of Brooklyn, I haven't been able to 100% engross myself in the culture, specifically in the parenting community. To me, Fort Greene seems to dominate the family happenings of Brooklyn. That's followed by Park Slope, Dumbo and Prospect Heights.

What I want to know is... *cue Bernie Mac*... "What the f@#k is goings on" every where else? Are there slim pickings in Bedstuy, Crown Heights, Weeksville and the remaining neighborhoods on the BK? Parent groups, children's classes, play spaces, family restaurants... where are you?!

I became really bothered by this after becoming a mom and always needing to trek to the museum, music class and storytime. Even more so, when it was time to research preschools, I was very frustrated that the quality schools were a commute away. I went on a popular parenting site that listed a preschool two blocks from me, but come to find out, that school have been closed for almost two years. Really?!

So now I'm thinking I need to create a community up here, I'm not the only active parent in a one mile radius. I'm hoping to be wrong about all of this, so before I go knocking on Letitia James' office door, tell me Brooklyn... WHAT'S GOOD IN THE HOOD?!

Shaniqua is a mama times two, wife, and student juggling it all in NYC. Show her some love and follow her on Twitter @S_Garvin.

Trendy, Handmade Jewelry by Lauren Nicole Gifts {GIVEAWAY!}

2011-12-22T00:48:00.001-05:00

"A good accessory goes a long way!" Ain't that the truth! The right accessory can transform any outfit from "blah" to "chic" and any gal from "Plan Jane" to "Glamor Girl."

Now that we're right in the thick of the holiday frenzy, I'm not having much time to get dressed in the morning, let alone pick out my outfits. But the right accessories have been helping me by allowing my look to remain trendy, cute, and most of all, delicious.

And I'm always up for learning about new accessory brands and adding to my collection. What gal isn't?! That's why I was thrilled to take a peek at the Lauren Nicole Gifts website where dreams are born and gorgeous custom made jewelry are made. Hand stamped pure silver personalized jewelry, monogrammed jewelry, and wax seal jewelry to be exact. And... because you can include initials, full names, personal messages, birth stones, or favorite colors, the jewelry makes for great gifts and keepsakes.

{wax sealed jewelry}

{name jewelry}

{wedding jewelry}

When I picked out my necklace, I chose one that is dainty and sweet and feminine. I love that the letter "A" is in a block letter, but in a soft way. The pink and the blue represents Aiden and me, and of course, the "love" is because I love him to pieces. This necklace is a sure winner. What do you think?

GIVEAWAY!

Lauren Nicole Gifts is graciously offering one (1) lucky Mommy Delicious reader a $50 gift certificate to shop till you drop (or until you spend 50 bucks) at the Lauren Nicole Gifts website! Woohoo! Now's your chance to get that engraved pendent you've been thinking about!

Want to enter?

Mandatory entry: Head on over to the Lauren Nicole Gifts website and tell me what personalized handmade design you'd choose. Leave your answer in the comment.

For one extra entry: "Like" Mommy Delicious on Facebook and "like" the post about this giveaway. Let me know you've done so in the comments.

One (1) winner will be chosen via Random.org on Tuesday, December 27th. Please leave your contact information so that I can reach you if you win.

GOOD LUCK!

UPDATE: WINNER IS... Aisha of Hartlyn Kids! Congrats! Look out for an email from me!

{I received a necklace from Lauren Nicole Gifts to facilitate this review. This giveaway is being sponsored by Lauren Nicole Gifts. All opinions expressed herein are my own.}

2011 Holiday Gifts for Kids {Let's Rock! Elmo GIVEAWAY}

2011-12-21T02:23:00.001-05:00

If you're celebrating Hanukkah, Happy Hanukkah! I've got some super last minute gift ideas for the kiddies. You know, in case you're in need of assistance and all. I've also got a giveaway, but since I've been busy enjoying good company for the holidays, this giveaway comes to you a little late. But no worries, though. The winner will have it just in time... for New Years.

Shoes For Me! by Sue Fliess

This story is about America's favorite past time... shopping! Hippo has outgrown her shoes so she has to head to the department store to buy a new pair. The book is colorful, engaging, and overall fun to read. The rhyming makes it super easy for little ones to keep up with the storyline and provides a good laugh. I read it to Aiden and he liked it a lot. Then I had his teacher read it to the Pre-K class and the kids enjoyed it as well. No doubt about it, it's a hit! Details: Ages 4 and up. $12.99. Buy it here.

Madame Alexander StinkyKids Dolls

{StinkyKid Britt}

{StinkyKid Billy}

These 12" soft-bodied dolls each have their own distinct personalities. Each doll comes with a card that lists his/her hobbies, favorite foods, colors, and other things. StinkyKids donates a percentage of their profits to a cancer related charity, Books, Bears, and Bonnets, Inc. Talk about generosity! Love it! Details: Ages 0 and up. $16.50. Buy it here.

Kickboard Scooter

Whether it's a mini kick for younger ones, maxi kick for older kids, or an adult kickboard, there's really not a better way to get around than with this baby. It rides so smooth and feels as though you're surfing the sidewalk. Aiden has one and he loves it to pieces. So much so that he always wants to take it out. I really want one for myself so that I can keep up with the kid. Buy it here.

Let's Rock! Elmo

{Randy Jackson and Elmo}

{The Real Elmo}

This toy came out a few months ago and Aiden and I had a chance to attend the launch party at the Empire Hotel in Midtown Manhattan. Not only did we get to mix and mingle with Randy Jackson, but we also were able to meet the "real" Elmo aka the man behind the voice. It was just so much fun! This toy is so much fun to play with and I'm sure it'll put a smile on your kid's face. So why don't we? Put a smile on one lucky reader's kid face, that is!

GIVEAWAY!
One (1) lucky Mommy Delicious reader will win the Let's Rock! Elmo! Want it to be you?

Mandatory entry: "Like" Mommy Delicious on Facebook AND "like" a post on the Mommy Delicious Facebook page. Leave a comment saying that you have done both things.

Want an extra entry? Share this giveaway on Facebook. Leave a comment saying that you've done so.

Want an extra entry? Follow Mommy Delicious on Twitter AND tweet about this giveaway. Make sure to @MommyDelicious when you tweet! Leave a separate comment saying that you've done so.

The winner will be chosen via Random.org on Monday, December 26th and the toy will be mailed out on the 27th so please leave your contact information in case you win!

Good Luck and happy last minute shopping!

UPDATED: WINNER ANNOUNCED -- MaWhat'sForDinner! Congrats! Look out for an email from me!

{Disclaimer: I was not compensated for this post. I received Shoes For Me! for purposes of this review. I received a Let's Rock! Elmo for purposes of this review.}

Holiday Tips to Live By

2011-12-19T02:08:00.000-05:00

By Amanda Tradwick

The holidays can be a stressful time for any parent: planning a budget that you won’t be paying for until the next holiday season, negotiating time with family and friends, and trying to find time for yourself in all the chaos. For single parents, it can be even more difficult. Budgets are tighter, family negotiations are more tense, and “free time” seems like an elusive dream. Fortunately, there are a few tips you can follow to make holidays as a single parent a bit easier:

Plan Ahead

Start talking to your former partner early about how you will celebrate the holidays: How much money will you each spend on gifts? Who will purchase what? When will you each spend time with the children? Negotiate these details early so that you have a clear idea of shared responsibilities and scheduling. Don’t wait until the last minute to realize that your parents really want a huge family gathering this year but your former partner has already promised time with his or her family. Avoid conflicts and hurt feelings by working out all the details ahead of time.

Stick to A Budget

Don’t let the holidays break your bank by trying to buy a bunch of gifts to compensate for you and your partner’s split. You are already on a limited budget as a single parent, and you must be disciplined if you are to survive the holidays without going into debt. Set a reasonable budget for yourself, and plan ahead by saving or finding ways to make extra cash for the holidays. Focus on thoughtful gifts to be sure that you are not wasting money on items that will go unused or unappreciated. Make gifts where you can. Many handmade or sentimental gifts often have more value than those bought in a store.

Focus On Holiday Cheer

The holidays can be challenging emotionally, especially if you are single or are recently separated from your partner. Do what you can to avoid any conflict or awkward moments with your ex. This will only exacerbate your own struggle and will make the situation more difficult for your children. Instead, focus on making the holidays as cheerful as you can. Be cordial to your ex when you have to see each other, and spend the rest of your time with friends and family who are positive influences.

Spread Out Your Celebrations

It’s called the holiday “season” for a reason. You don’t have to focus all your celebrations on one day. Instead, participate in a variety of activities as a family to spread your holiday cheer. Spend time together decorating your home, making baked goods for your family and friends, or singing carols and watching holiday movies. Enjoying a number of smaller celebrations and family traditions throughout the season will minimize any hard feelings or loneliness felt if you are unable to be with your children all day on the actual holiday.

Gather With Friends

Find support in other single parents and friends by attending adult-only gatherings or by hosting a special celebration for other single parents and their children. You can share your holidays with this new “extended family” and find support from others who understand the issues you are facing. Your gathering can also become a new tradition!

With a little planning, the holidays need not be a stressful time. Starting early and finding support where you need it will be crucial to making the holiday a little brighter when you are a single parent. What other ways have you found to make the holidays a bit easier? Share your thoughts in the comments!

Amanda Tradwick is a grant researcher and writer for CollegeGrants.org. She has a BA from the University of Delaware and has recently finished research on grants for adults returning to college and Pennsylvania education grants.