tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6031615612874115797.post7720215129206053438..comments2024-03-28T15:07:01.310-04:00Comments on Mommy Delicious: Lessons From My ExAliciahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17286253462703793396noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6031615612874115797.post-49588232803870374812011-07-27T23:37:53.848-04:002011-07-27T23:37:53.848-04:00POW. I read this at just the right time. Although ...POW. I read this at just the right time. Although I don't write about KT's father and my relationship it sucks kinda. Here's the short version it took me 11 years to move into the place you are in and that's keeping the conversation about the kid. I'd listen to his troubles, chat it and just work extra hard to be all cordial. I felt like if I did these things he'd be a great dad to KT. <br /><br />Well that isn't so. He doesn't have what I think makes a great father. Doesn't mean he's not a good father, he's just not the best at making the situation we have work. Here's why he's suppose to get his son for his once a year visit (this is all he musters up unless I bring KT to him or travel someplace that makes his travel time easiter). Well I decided this year I'm no longer going to drive to meet him. If you drive for 6 hours do 2 more. Get your son. <br /><br />This year I'm not down. I'm busy with grad school and resting before I return to work. I've never blocked him from seeing his son but I can'tn continue making it easy for him. He has a wife, 2 kids and a live in mother-in-law. I have me and my support system. <br /><br />So like you I'm glad I dodged that bullet. I would have been miserable! We are polite but there's no reason to do anything more than keep it KT-specific :)Kerissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04546546010795837472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6031615612874115797.post-29398472694317216812011-06-26T13:31:28.701-04:002011-06-26T13:31:28.701-04:00Amazing post Alicia!!! I love it. I can't beli...Amazing post Alicia!!! I love it. I can't believe how much you've grown and changed since I first stumbled across your blog!!! <3jessica ♥ The Fevered Penhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08287758298979040822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6031615612874115797.post-85491801182146611262011-06-23T20:47:39.176-04:002011-06-23T20:47:39.176-04:00We are all a product of our experiences and it'...We are all a product of our experiences and it's so great when you can take the positive from it and be the best you! :) Loved this post! :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6031615612874115797.post-40875852897367344662011-06-23T19:02:25.310-04:002011-06-23T19:02:25.310-04:00Yes Yes and YES!
You know I've been there... ...Yes Yes and YES!<br /><br />You know I've been there... and it takes time to heal, and take the lessons from it. I feel the same way about exes. They're my Ex for a reason. But every so often you do get that little silver lining that says, "I made a kick ass choice to move on" and it's sooo healthy to pat yourself on the back as a result. <br /><br />You will find someone who will be deserving of you, love you selflessly and show you every day just how amazing you are. <br /><br />Here's a little reminder to keep in your virtual pocket: <br /><br />"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails." 1 Corinthians 13:4 - Bible <br /><br />Best, <br />Li <br />@LaLicenciada<br />@HerDeepThoughtsUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15155116476790680637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6031615612874115797.post-85377276094836555512011-06-23T14:52:40.942-04:002011-06-23T14:52:40.942-04:00Love this! I think back on my ex. Hmmmm...you real...Love this! I think back on my ex. Hmmmm...you really hit some key parts that I didn't think of. Guess that's why he's an Ex!Sunshine - www.cancersurvivor26.blogger.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11157108257476286956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6031615612874115797.post-54518671567617358252011-06-22T22:16:35.006-04:002011-06-22T22:16:35.006-04:00Love this! I am a big believer in "everything...Love this! I am a big believer in "everything happens for a reason" and our past relationships happened for a reason...so we know what NOT to do in future ones. ;)soontobesinglemomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13846073157818577730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6031615612874115797.post-23294197442775113302011-06-22T18:44:42.135-04:002011-06-22T18:44:42.135-04:00When a child is involved its sometimes hard to com...When a child is involved its sometimes hard to completely "AX" the ex, lol. Though sometimes I wish we could... Handling the situation with dignity, grace and the "never again spirit" really helps to keep them in line and it makes us really happy with our decision. You are an inspiration, another wonderful post.Beauty and The Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04512886866116703635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6031615612874115797.post-28900975314347707092011-06-22T10:06:38.737-04:002011-06-22T10:06:38.737-04:00well said! All of us have bad experiences, but so ...well said! All of us have bad experiences, but so few learn from them! You are a good role model!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08700057904506855793noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6031615612874115797.post-3238548138808731452011-06-21T12:52:58.732-04:002011-06-21T12:52:58.732-04:00Despite what you have grown through, at least you ...Despite what you have grown through, at least you were able to obtain a very valuable lesson. In my situation, I was able to take several with me when I chose to walk away. It had been the most liberating experience of my life. I had reintroduced myself to the belief that <b>I</b> control me. <br /><br />Carla - <a href="http://www.est1987.net" rel="nofollow">www.est1987.net</a>Carlahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14937845670113240789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6031615612874115797.post-57537005227318457022011-06-21T08:41:00.873-04:002011-06-21T08:41:00.873-04:00This is such a great post. I think we can all come...This is such a great post. I think we can all come out stronger than ever after a toxic relationship. Glad that you can see how much better off you are now!A Mommy in the Cityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11899556376327311727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6031615612874115797.post-25711315256302769832011-06-21T07:45:21.242-04:002011-06-21T07:45:21.242-04:00You go girl! It's kind of hard to keep exes ...You go girl! It's kind of hard to keep exes like this in the past, because the children keep you connected, so yes, it's good to LEARN from "them" so you don't make the same mistakes again!Sorta Southern Single Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14349718837546442408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6031615612874115797.post-70202759165973357932011-06-20T21:44:06.046-04:002011-06-20T21:44:06.046-04:00PREACH!!!! I am a firm believer that exes are exes...PREACH!!!! I am a firm believer that exes are exes for a reason and you have to go through the bad to know what the the good ones are like. <br /><br />Everything in life happens for a reason and must of the time there is a lesson to be learned.<br /><br />Excellent post!Alexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01437627457955797951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6031615612874115797.post-57045371282561994062011-06-20T21:10:44.315-04:002011-06-20T21:10:44.315-04:00Not harsh at all! That's my philosophy too!Not harsh at all! That's my philosophy too!TheBabyMammaChronicleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17210832629299621129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6031615612874115797.post-14457412974086988132011-06-20T20:30:29.806-04:002011-06-20T20:30:29.806-04:00I agree with you on ALL points. 1) Exes are exes f...I agree with you on ALL points. 1) Exes are exes for a reason, 2) I tend not to be interested in any "friendly" contact with them (beyond courtesy), and 3) those past relationships arent a total waste... because we really do learn and grow from each one. <br /><br />Stumbled this!~ Yhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17840261047913991279noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6031615612874115797.post-11178118530020758992011-06-20T19:16:15.403-04:002011-06-20T19:16:15.403-04:00it takes a very strong woman to move on with their...it takes a very strong woman to move on with their life after a relationship especially when there is a child involved. Kudos to you, you and you! i have a friend in a similar situation and i wish she would find her strength to reinvent herself! to see the beauty in moving forward. great post!Mrs. Pancakeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03441934318368344653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6031615612874115797.post-54449633369086807462011-06-20T14:55:08.086-04:002011-06-20T14:55:08.086-04:00I had a similar experience last week. Glad you can...I had a similar experience last week. Glad you can see the beauty in moving forward.Laila @OnlyLailahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17557565180495514065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6031615612874115797.post-12738255211337457372011-06-20T14:15:19.466-04:002011-06-20T14:15:19.466-04:00Wonderful post, Alicia! You are an inspiration. Th...Wonderful post, Alicia! You are an inspiration. Things haven't been easy - but I think you are so right. It's these difficult experiences that push us in the direction of being better people. Aiden is so lucky to have you as a mother.Sarah at The Stroller Ballethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03869943731257433887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6031615612874115797.post-41862750700311250352011-06-20T13:55:29.682-04:002011-06-20T13:55:29.682-04:00Your a strong woman and an inspiration for both si...Your a strong woman and an inspiration for both single and married women!Baby Shopaholichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09441184835925739028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6031615612874115797.post-2695456828940342342011-06-20T12:59:48.209-04:002011-06-20T12:59:48.209-04:00Aiden is a fortunate boy to have such a resilient ...Aiden is a fortunate boy to have such a resilient mommy. You have a very strong and healthy perspective!Katyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12121343701299422443noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6031615612874115797.post-4569882640756764172011-06-20T12:11:39.417-04:002011-06-20T12:11:39.417-04:00Did I write this? LOL this sounds just like me. G...Did I write this? LOL this sounds just like me. Greatly written.Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17989639634093397794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6031615612874115797.post-76934927793760349062011-06-20T12:11:26.678-04:002011-06-20T12:11:26.678-04:00I love the woman you are growing into! Stay encour...I love the woman you are growing into! Stay encouraged! :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com